Why You Should Stop Worrying What Others Think About You
by Erika Slater
Are you a person who constantly worries about what other people think about you?
Are you one of those folks who feels the need to place a false persona on themselves in order to feel and be accepted by others even though you dislike pretending to be something you aren’t?
If so, it’s time to stop acting the way you think others want you to be and start being your own person.
Sometimes this is easier said than done because you’ve been role-playing to fit in and perhaps lost sight of who you really are!
They say that no matter how hard you try or how much you bend backwards for some people, they will never like you or accept you. Some experts believe that percentage of those folks is in the range of 10%. Some people will never like you no matter how hard you try or no matter what you do for them, as it will never be enough.
That is their issue and not your own!
When it comes to people “liking” you they will often form perceptions of you – who and what they think you are. Often times, their perceptions are based on microcosms of their interactions with you.
They do not spend life with you 24/7 so they can’t possibly know about everything you do. They have not spent their whole lives with you 24/7 so they can’t know all of the experiences you’ve lived.
And most importantly, all of our thinking is unique, much like our DNA and finger prints meaning that no two minds think the same way or have the same thoughts because our perceptions are different based on our learning, our experiences and the way we perceive the world based on our thoughts.
This is why you should never worry what others think about you because most times they are not thinking about you, and if they are, they are thinking about you indirectly – based on the stereotypes and perceptions that they have about you, which are often times microcosms of the entire, true story!
The best question you can ask yourself about others and why you want them to like you is, “Why do I possess this overwhelming need to be accepted at whatever cost, even compromising my beliefs about who I really am?” Only then will you find the answer and the answer is usually easy to find when you dig deep, but difficult to accept.
I will give you the answer… the reason you want others to like you so much is you don’t like yourself! Somewhere deep down you lost sight of how great you really are and that you are wonderfully created.
Something might have happened in childhood or in your teen years that led to your negative self-concept and self-esteem. From that point on you felt the need to be accepted and do whatever it takes as this validates you as a good person.
You are a good person who just needs to shift their awareness to believing you are good and feeling good about yourself. From there, more good will comes, especially good people who accept you for who you are.
Worrying What Others Think About You is one of the fundamental topics I cover in my Confidence and Self-Esteem Hypnosis Program on Cape Cod.
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