Self-Talk Confidence Builders

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Bad self-talk can lead to confidence issues

Are you familiar with the expression, “You are what you eat?” I am sure you have probably heard it spoken, but what about this one, “You are what you think about most?

Before reading any further, what is it that you tell yourself most about you? Do you think about yourself in a positive and successful light, or are you your own worst critic, condescending and putting yourself down every opportunity you get?

You see, the choice is yours – You are what you think!

The key to gaining or creating self-confidence begins with you. So many people think that confidence comes from something outside of them self, like compliments from others, taking self-esteem courses or seminars, reading self-help books on the subject, or even taking some kind of “magical pill“.

Well these methods are all fine and dandy, but at the end of the day it all boils down to one thing… You are who or what you think you are!

Sure it’s great to receive compliments and kudos as no one ever complains about these positive statements, but they are extrinsic, and outside of yourself.

The real work starts with intrinsic confidence building which means it has to start on the inside of you. You alone have to embrace the notions, “If it’s going to be then it’s up to me!“, and “I can think, feel and believe I can be whomever I want to be!

You have to get the proverbial ball rolling which in itself is a “self-talk confidence” builder – feeling like and being the person you most want to be!

Of course this starts on the inside of you and you project this sense of confidence outward. You become like the light of a lighthouse drawing in ships at sea. The light is projected outward and captains of the ships perceive this light and are drawn to it.


They are confident they are going in the right direction. People around you see the light you put out and if it is a bright light radiating confidence, then they will be drawn to you!

How do you create self-talk confidence?

It’s very simple actually and starts out with the same two words, “I AM!” The key is what you insert after “I am _________!“, which determine the degree of self-confidence you will achieve. Of course, you want to put in positive words such as, “I am healthy!“, “I am successful!“, “I am love!“, “I am attractive!“, “I am intelligent!“, and so on.

The easiest part of this is that all you have to do is think it and you can start right now. Each time a negative thought comes after your “I am” statement, imagine you have a delete button and quickly delete it and replace it with a positive “I am” statement.

Also, practice this throughout the day.

If you do this for 28 days, you will notice your level of self-confidence rising. It may take a little work to start monitoring the negative thoughts, but if you constantly offer yourself positive “I am” statements, then it doesn’t allow room for negative statements to filter in.

Also, there are two ways to supercharge this process. First, spend the last 5 minutes every night before drifting off into sleep to give yourself positive “I am” statements. The subconscious mind will ingrain them while you sleep.

Second, try a couple of sessions with a hypnotherapist. They can help you create and plant positive, confidence-boosting “I am” statements in your unconscious.

Self-Talk Confidence Builders is one of the topics I cover in my Confidence and Self-Esteem Program.

Other articles in this series:

Dealing with Ego
Not Being a Hostage to the Past
How to Cope with Any Situation
Comparing Yourself to Others
Keeping a Sense of Humor
Focus on the Right Outcome
Using Mental Rehearsals
Overcome Challenging Thoughts
Stop Worrying What Others Think About You
How to Improve Your Self-Image
Drawing Clear Boundaries
Coping with Uncomfortable Situations

Erika Slater
Free At Last Hypnosis

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