Self-Improvement

People have their own measurement and therefore calibration of resilience. One person’s ceiling is another one’s floor. The fact is it’s a fragile thought this “resilience” thing. I can’t go into a pharmacy and pick up a bottle of resilience pills. It can’t be measured other than as an arbitrary interpretation of our own standards. Is it something you’re born with, or is it shaped by your parents and/or environment? Can you manufacture it at the gym or Yoga studio? Maybe a more important question for some of us should be “Can you lose it?” Find out here…

No, I’m not asking you to stop watching Dr. Who hurtle through time with his Police Call Box model circa 1960s, also known as the “Tardis”. Or skip seeing the next Star Wars or Star Trek blockbuster movie! By the way, if you’re working on a machine that really does let you travel back in time then use my contact page to let me know. I have some plans for revenge I’d love to implement for some individuals with your help! Seriously, we all have regrets about the past and worries about the future. But it’s futile. Here’s where you should be instead…

Is there someone in your life you live with, or you know, that just seems to bring out the worst in you? Your day seems to be going perfectly, you’re feeling happy and positive, carefree, but then see them coming down the aisle heading your way, or their number pops up on your phone, and your heart sinks. You have to make the split-second decision of “fight or flight.” You know any interaction with them is going to press your anger buttons and lead to nothing good! Almost everyone has had this type of experience in their lives. There are certain individuals who can infuriate us beyond belief and we wish we could just remain calm and not let them wreck our days. Does this sound familiar? Read on to find out what to do about it…

We all have unrealized dreams. Maybe we’ve had them since childhood or they’ve grown on us since adulthood, or we were touched by somebody we wanted to emanate. It can be a career or wealth, or a role we want to play in our community. It doesn’t matter because the effect is the same… a gap. We each have a large potential. It could be physical – such as the athletic kind – or it could be some other level of success such as being an entrepreneur, or being a loving spouse and parent. You’re on the path heading in the right direction but you just can’t seem to bridge… the gap to your potential. We know what we want to become, and see other’s achieving it but we can’t seem to figure out how to bridge the gap for ourselves. We’re left on the wrong side of the gap. We mostly know what we need to do but can’t seem to consistently follow through and take action, or when we do it just doesn’t move us forward. We continually flounder on the wrong side of our potential.

Are you familiar with the iconic, timeless hit classic by the great British rock band The Who, ‘Who Are You?’ Many media sources – commercials, TV shows, movies, etc. have used this song as a theme song, an anthem of sorts to encourage people to be themselves – their true, ideal selves. Do you know who you truly are? Do you ever wonder, “Why am I here?”, “Who am I?”, or “Who do I want to be when I grow up?” Many people throughout their lives ask themselves these deep, philosophical questions, spending too much time trying to come up with mundane answers for something that’s deeply rooted in their souls and spirits. Instead of ‘living’ and making their perceptions of their lives an ‘inside job’, they’re waiting for something outside of themselves to transcend them to a higher level. They want to be their ideal self, but just cannot figure out how to! Here’s some help…

Are you a person who requires a great deal of creativity to succeed in your career, or personal life? Maybe you’re a writer whose got that “writer’s block” state which is driving you crazy? Perhaps you go through dry spells when you need to be creative that lead you to becoming stuck and unproductive. It might be you’ve a lot going on in your life leading you to feel stressed out, anxious or even complacent, or you’ve slipped into a confidence issue or fear of rejection phase? These factors might be the culprits that lead you to having a block in your creativity, and the problem is catch-22. The more you think about the blockage the harder it seems to get back to your free-flowing thoughts. Well don’t worry, you’ll not lack that creativity forever, and there are ways of boosting it relatively quickly as you’ll read here…

Do you have difficulty in getting motivated to get projects started, get your goals achieved, or even get yourself organized to create goals in the first place? Perhaps you’ve always “flown by the seat of your pants” (nothing wrong with that if you get results), but tend to get side-tracked, distracted and lose focus. If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, then this article pertains to you and you need to make changes in the way you go about motivating yourself to get your goals achieved. I’m also going to argue in order to meet your goals you’re going to need to make some drastic changes to remove distractions in your life and learn to motivate yourself and not rely on others to motivate you. Read more here…

Most people who get married or are in long-term relationships at some point feel, or acknowledge the spark that was once aflame with passion, which ignited the need for you to be around one another, has burned down to a flicker. In some cases, the spark has just simply extinguished! No one said the ‘spark’ would last forever, and that the wonderful chemistry both of you felt in the beginning would endure at that level for the rest of the relationship. After all, this is the magic seen in fairy tales, romance novels and soap operas. Too many people buy into this ‘magic’ as if it’s a reality of a long-term relationship, rather than realizing anything and everything in life will become ‘commonplace’, habitual and even mundane. That is not necessarily a bad thing when you’re content, and grateful for whom and what you have. Nonetheless there does comes a time when you begin to wonder if you can ever get the spark back and if you can’t then what’s staring at you for the rest of this relationship? Read more to discover how to change the outcome…