How to Be Your Ideal Self – Overcoming Challenges to a Better You

by Erika Slater

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Are you familiar with the iconic, timeless hit classic by the great British rock band The Who, ‘Who Are You?

Many media sources – commercials, TV shows, movies, etc. have used this song as a theme song, an anthem of sorts to encourage people to be themselves – their true, ideal selves.

Do you know who you truly are?

Do you ever wonder, “Why am I here?”, “Who am I?”, or “Who do I want to be when I grow up?” Many people throughout their lives ask themselves these deep, philosophical questions, spending too much time trying to come up with mundane answers for something that’s deeply rooted in their souls and spirits.

Instead of ‘living’ and making their perceptions of their lives an ‘inside job’, they’re waiting for something outside of themselves to transcend them to a higher level. They want to be their ideal self, but just cannot figure out how to!

So, how do you go about being your ideal self? Is there a point ever when it’s too late?

Heck no!

As they say, there’s definitely no time like the present. Are you ready to try?



negative thinking quote with businessman's black shoesToo many people live their lives with a negative mindset, or continually go through the motions, existing, or enduring, rather than truly enjoying their lives.

In the past, some branches of psychology asserted once an individual reached a certain age, their personality became set in stone.

The ongoing assumption was people don’t change, or are incapable of change.

However, modern research shows as a person thinks, so do they feel, act and become. What this means, is no matter how old you are, you can change!

Most people think about changing and even share this thought with those close to them.

Unfortunately, most don’t change because they don’t know how to, or believe it’ll take too much time and energy to achieve this. The fact is change can be hard as it’s effectively breaking a habit, and while you can make a small change for a day making it permanent can take a lot of willpower for a number of days until it feels comfortable and becomes a habit.

How long does it take?

Most have heard the wisdom it takes 21-days to learn a new habit or replace a bad habit. The reasoning is if you do something for 21-days straight then it’ll become a habit.

In “The Miracle Morning” by Hal Elrod, he writes “… you can change any habit in 30 days, if you have the right strategy. The problem is, most people don’t have any strategy, let alone the right one.

The fact is change is hard… especially at first. In Elrod’s experience as a coach who’s constantly asking people to change and who also WANT to change – days 1-10 is phase one which he labels: unbearable. Many people don’t make it through this initial phase because it’s too hard to make the change stick as its alien to their body and/or mind.

I developed a short free habit change MP3 session to aid you in changing or acquiring new habits and you can find a link to download it at the end of this article.

I like to say even when you’re just thinking about change you’re setting the ball in motion to move towards a better version of yourself. You’re in the right mindset.

So, let’s look at some ways of turning your mindset into actions…



happy smiling woman thinking positive thoughtsThinking about becoming your ideal self means you’re not content being ‘who’ you are at present, and you want to think, behave and act differently. You’re confirming to your unconscious mind you’re not satisfied with how your life is, and you want to create a greater sense of emotional stability for yourself.

What this all means is you believe you’re living a life that features you as being LESS than your ideal self!

Becoming your ideal self can involve a lot of soul searching about who you want to be. It’s an important question to ask and wrestle with and it can involve taking elements from people you admire and are likely role models for you to emanate.

I’ve provided a resource below in the special section to give you some pointers in going about capturing ways you can think about being your ideal self.

In order to create your ideal, positive self, you need to focus on, or create positive thoughts, that’ll take you in the direction you want to go.

As a man or woman thinks, so they’ll become.

The key is to set your thinking in the right direction and make a commitment to being consistent and committed. There are many self-improvement books that cover this topic and provide help. Hal Elrod goes into more detail about his experience in moving towards positive habits at his “The Miracle Morning” website where you’ll find free resources. I’ve provided a link to his website in the resource section below.

But many of us still need help in keeping on a positive path. If you struggle with thinking positive thoughts, or you just can’t seem to focus on them for long, or make them stick, then consider hypnosis as a tool to help. Hypnosis is no “magic wand” but it can help you overcome challenges and barriers faster than other activities as it “talks” directly to the unconscious mind.

Hypnosis is powerful at seeding the unconscious mind with positive thoughts and making them more prominent.

During a hypnosis session, you can create the thoughts you want as the dominating ones in your mind. With the help of a hypnotherapist you’ll discover how to shift your focus to becoming the person you want to be – a better you.

If you want to consider working directly with me on moving towards your ideal self through my online and in-office sessions, then check out my Special Hypnosis Services Programs.



The Miracle Morning – Hal Elrod >>>

FREE Habit Change MP3 Download Here – Erika Slater >>>

Five Ways to Becoming Your Ideal Self – Psychology Today >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

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In this free audio hypnosis session, you’ll experience the power of your subconscious mind to begin to change your habits. If you've never experienced hypnosis before then this is a great introduction...