Health and Wellness

Erika Slater Head and upper torso image2Health and Wellness is all about what we do on a regular basis to maintain our physical and mental condition – essentially, how we take care of ourselves.

We know now that it’s not just about paying attention to our physical health by eating healthy and nourishing foods to fuel and heal our physical body, but also how we treat ourselves mentally and spiritually. Quality sleep, daily quiet time practicing mediation/mindfulness, and being compassionate and kind to ourselves is as important as doing the same to others.

The quality of life starts with having a sound body and mind and the selection of materials you’ll find here cover insights into natural therapies, our mind-body connections, nutrition and weight management, stress, slowing the aging process and much more.

Enjoy the articles.

How to Lose Weight Without Counting a Single Calorie

By Erika Slater
Calorie Counting Examples

Calorie Counting Examples

Are you an individual who’s desperately trying to lose weight or reduce the adipose fatty tissue on your body and you’ve resorted to ‘calorie counting’?

If you are, how’s it working for you so far? The truth is you may be barking up the wrong tree, or wrong supermarket isle!

While a popular chorus at one time with weight loss and nutrition gurus– “lose weight by burning more calories than you take in” – the fact is losing weight is more complicated than that.

Unfortunately, too many weight loss programs and regiments are geared toward counting calories which can be extremely tedious and time consuming. Trying to figure out just how many is too much, or too little can drive you mad!

Furthermore, it can become a chore in itself ‘counting calories’ and quickly you start to feel too much time and dedication needs to be put in, and this hasn’t even included the hours you spend at the gym!

Although counting calories can be a good place to start, it’s what is inside the calories you’re counting or not counting that matters most.

Let’s take a deeper look into the calorie counting mindset to see what makes sense and what doesn’t.

 

THE CALORIE COUNTING PHENOMENON:

Calorie counting appMost of what revolves around calorie counting is meeting quotas and not exceeding restrictions.

As many of these counting calorie programs are designed for “average” person wanting to lose weight then they’re necessarily generic in nature – one size fits all.

Unfortunately, we come to this earth far from being a one size and this is the limitation for these programs.

Some though are good at setting the standards for what constitutes good calories.

Such as what foods provide the best bang for your chewing and swallowing, thus maximizing healthy returns.

But YOUR healthy weight loss program needs to take into account a variety of things; your metabolism, your current level of functioning in terms of exercise, the amount of sleep you’re getting, if you’re stressed out or not, hormonal changes and fluctuations, and the quality of the calorie itself.

Everyone’s metabolism varies and the proper ‘caloric counting’ should be based on metabolism, physical activity, age, gender, health etc. Many people elect to lose weight as part of a group or with a friend. This can be an issue as well. Essentially, what works for your diet buddy’s body may not work for you. Because of this it can quickly turn into a demoralizing relationship with food if you’re eating the same number of calories as your buddy but not losing at same rate or at all!

Are you beginning to see the basic issues with the calorie counting problem here?

 

MOVING TOWARDS HEALTHY WEIGHT LOSS:

Healthy diet planWhile it makes sense to avoid foods and meals with “empty” calories, you want to quickly move beyond worrying about calorie intake and focus on staple healthy foods and eating habits for yourself. Understanding the quick breakfast at your favorite fast food chain will be ½ of your calorie allowance for the whole day should make you think twice about swallowing a breakfast platter at any chain.

First, I’m not a nutritionist but have got to a point in helping people lose weight, and my own personal journey, where I see some basic truths on healthy eating habits.

You may not like them at first… I’m not entirely sure I did… but they guide my eating habits each day now.

Eating healthy isn’t rocket science. It’s mostly plain sense.

Unfortunately, we tend to add confusion by insisting on wanting to “leave in” our favorite foods or those we associate ourselves with… such as pasta or potato.

We know vegetables and salads with some protein as meals usually offer the right level of nutrition and avoid you being absorbed in hour-by-hour calorie vigilance. Avoiding anything processed and which includes any hint of refined sugar lands you on a healthy planet as well.

Dairy and cholesterol are confusing areas for us all, especially as you get older and Doctor education tends to be behind the times on current thinking. Leaving dairy out from your diet altogether is a personal choice and you’ll need to experiment with it in your diet to establish if your body can live with it or abstinence is best policy.

Cholesterol is a more difficult balance and conflicting information perseveres as we learn more about it with more research and studies. Your personal level is the focus of much testing to determine your risk level for heart issues. If your cholesterol level is such medication is recommended – such as statins – do what you can on healthy living to avoid any prolonged medication.

When first engaging in a weight loss program, reach out to your physician, not for nutritional help but more to ensure there’s nothing medical that would impede you. Next, you need to incorporate the level of physical fitness you have in your life. If you’re training hard, then you’ll need more calories to sustain stamina, strength etc. This needs to be set and taken into account.

You’ll also want to take into account proper rest and sleep.

Protein sourcesSleep cycles play a large part in losing weight, as do hormonal changes, shifts in moods due to stress, anxiety and depression. Seek out professional help to put together your overall plan.

Perhaps the most intriguing part of any calorie is “What is in the calorie itself?”

Are your calories derived greatly in part from proteins, fats or carbohydrates? Are your fats primarily comprised of saturated or unsaturated fats, as after all, there are both good and bad fats.

Where are you deriving your proteins from; animal, fish or plants? You need to take cholesterol concerns into account.

Finally, where are your carbs coming from? Are they good sources of energy, as well as good fruit sugars, or are they derived from processed sugars and bleached flours?

You can count all the calories in the world and meet your daily intake, but if they’re from unhealthy sources, then you’re defeating your purpose.

Too many people believe just cutting calories down is enough, but it’s more about their quality.

One last thing, if you’re concerned with getting off the calorie counting carousel, then you might want to consider hypnosis. Hypnosis can help you with cutting out the bad calories, and help you stay focused on eating the good ones! I address this in my weight loss hypnosis service here.

Alternatively, if you’re ready to stop counting calories and develop a healthy relationship with food and don’t have access to a local hypnotist who can help then check out this self-hypnosis session here >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES TO HELP STOP COUNTING CALORIES:

The Dos and Don’ts of Counting Calories – WebMD >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Lose Weight? And Keep It Off! >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Overcome Sugar Addiction? >>>

Introduction to Emotional Eating Disorder >>>

The Most Important Secrets to Permanent Weight Loss >>>

Now I’ve Lost Weight, How Do I Keep the Weight Off? >>>

What Foods are High in Refined Sugars? – Livestrong >>>

Can Red-Light Therapy Help You Get Rid of Your Spare Tire? >>> 

 

Erika Slater CH
Free At Last Hypnosis
Massachusetts

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Increasing or Starting Your Meditation Motivation

By Erika Slater
Woman meditating at work

Woman meditating at work

This article touches on three related topics – meditation, mindfulness and hypnosis. Meditation in particular has got to a point with a lot of folks where they’ve gotten so distracted they “forget” to be mindful or practice meditation, or become inconsistent about it.

The focus of this article is how to help you increase or start your motivation for meditation as there’s nothing changed about its effectiveness or benefits for you. You just need to find ways to “get back in the meditation saddle.”

The world at large seems to have blurred the edges between meditation and mindfulness. So, let’s set the record straight a little: Meditation has many forms and mindfulness is a form where you bring your focus to one point such as breathing. This can be part of a wider meditation or be the meditation in and of itself.

Before we discuss ways of getting back into, or starting, meditation, let’s do a quick recap on some basics…

 

WHAT IS MEDITATION EXACTLY?

Woman relaxing after yogaWhen you hear the term ‘meditation’, what is the first thought or image that comes to mind for you?

Do you picture some guru chanting or humming as they sit cross-legged on a small mat with their palms raised upwards? It’s funny many people still have this ‘mystical’ perception of meditation, usually based on movies and media, when often times it’s portrayed as being hokey or silly.

Unfortunately, due to these misperceptions, too many people dismiss it and shrug it off as a beneficial source of relaxation and healing, when in fact it’s exceptionally beneficial.

People who use meditation achieve wonderful relaxation and peace of mind.

It helps them to escape from the daily, mundane stresses of their everyday living.

One of the biggest obstacles when it comes to meditation, is in knowing how to do it properly, at least that’s a misconception too many people hold.

Going back to the media’s portrayal of meditation, many people believe meditation is some difficult, complex mystical process that takes years upon years of training to master. In fact, meditation is very easy to learn and do.

People who really want to ‘meditate’ are able to do it immediately and reap its benefit as quickly.

What is meditation exactly?

The best way to describe meditation is to discuss it as a process that trains the mind to self-regulate itself. By self-regulating itself, the mind achieves a deeper, more relaxed state of consciousness that creates benefit for the mind to acknowledge some specific content without becoming identified with that specific content.

Often times, meditation is used to clear one’s mind of stressful thoughts.

This has the ability to help with both psychological and physiological health concerns.

Furthermore, meditation is exceptional for aiding in treating stress, anxiety, anger and depression. Meditative states create outstanding calming effects and directs one’s awareness inward, until a heightened awareness is achieved – an inside wakefulness of being totally aware of your being and thoughts.

This helps in one’s controlling of thoughts, or re-conditioning of your thoughts.

Most people are caught up in the hustle, bustle and distracting noise of their everyday lives, and they believe they don’t have the time to learn it or to engage in the many forms of meditation.

 

GETTING STARTED OR MAKING YOUR WAY BACK TO MEDITATION:

Motivational quoteAs mentioned earlier there are many types of meditation and one of these is Mindfulness. Seven popular meditation forms are: Transcendental Meditation, Heart Rhythm Meditation (HRM), Kundalini, Guided Visualization, Qi Gong, Zazen, Mindfulness.

There are a lot more than seven so do your own research to find a way of meditating that’ll work for you.

I began this article by mentioning hypnosis in the same sentence as meditation and mindfulness. This was deliberate by me as hypnosis is a form of meditation.

Hypnosis is a heightened state of awareness where thoughts become focused and controlled. With that said, experts have likened hypnosis to tunnel vision, you only see (focus and think about) what’s in front of your mind.

You get to choose what that ‘something’ is. Ironically, when you learn self-hypnosis, you basically learn how to accomplish meditation! This can be helpful also in rejuvenating your motivation to get back to meditation if you’ve wandered away from it or being inconsistent.

Hypnosis can help you “light the fire” to begin, or “rekindle the fire” to get you back in, to consistent meditation and experiencing all the benefits of relaxation it can provide.

For those who have never tried hypnosis, it’s a great place to start and see what total peace and relaxation under your own direction feels like. This can be greatly aided under the guidance of a trained hypnotherapist.

In the first session, a trained hypnotherapist can teach you both self-hypnosis and meditation. Since much hypnosis is self-hypnosis, what is taught to you can be directly used and applied when you are alone and need to engage in it. If you want to consider working directly with me on meditation motivation through my online and in-office sessions, then check out my Hypnosis Services or if you’ve a specific need then contact me here.

Meditation is as simple as self-hypnosis which is super easy!

Alternatively, if you’re struggling to get going on meditation or to maintain your meditation practice and want to try a self-hypnosis product then check out this motivation for meditation self-hypnosis session here >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO MEDITATION MOTIVATION:

Mindfulness vs Meditation: The Difference Between these Two Pathways to Well-Being and Peace of Mind >>>

Introduction to Mindfulness Part I (of four parts) – Erika Slater CH >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Erika Slater CH
Free At Last Hypnosis
Massachusetts

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Helping and Encouraging Your Kids to Eat Healthy

By Erika Slater
kids eating fruit salad

kids eating fruit salad

As a parent, it can be difficult to make sure your children are eating good and healthy all of the time! Let me take that back… most of the time?

I encountered this problem first-hand when my three boys were growing up. I even started a health blog in 2003 called “Nutrition for Picky Eaters.” You see I viewed my kids limited menu as them just being picky eaters – which to a certain extent, most kids are. Some more than others of course.

In those days, I was attempting to “compensate” their poor tastes in food by giving them supplement drinks. I found out later most of these ended up in our air duct system!

But the fact is, we are their role models for food and what we offer to them. Back in those days we were just beginning to uncover the huge impact sugars and processed foods where having on our kids.

The problem is things haven’t got any better, and in fact in many respects even worse. So, we can influence their eating habits for the rest of their lives and this is what today’s article is all about.

 

THE PROBLEMS WITH KIDS AND HEALTHY EATING:

unhealthy snack foodsFirst off, nobody is “casting any stones here.” Least of all me!

While ignorance is not an excuse for eating poorly nonetheless I feel we’ve all been duped by the food industry. An industry with economics and wall street demands that many times makes them choose between doing what’s right for their customers, and what’s right for their investors.

Now, please don’t give me any business mission statement baloney about they’re the same.

When it comes to food… it’s just not true for the giants in the food industry.

The fact is, you can’t rely on them to make sure what you feed your kids is nutritionally good for them… or you.

The problem with today’s lifestyles is everything is based on a fast food mentality and society. Even if you don’t frequent the brand burger places, a lot of the food in supermarkets is frankly processed and less than healthy.

People are juggling multiple jobs, and so, spending time with kids regularly can be an obstacle due to work commitments.

So many kids are left to forge for their meals from the cupboards, fast food joints, or something quick and easy had been left out for them by the parents. Unfortunately, the quick and easy food menus usually don’t add up to healthy eating for kids.

If your kids are like most kids, they like the fast food restaurants that are yellow, orange or red, that tend to only serve greasy or empty-caloric foods. In an attempt to respond to concerned consumers and parents even these places now have created healthier menus.

The problem with kids is they don’t want to eat the healthier foods on these menus, and these preparations tend to cost a little, or a lot more, than the old school burgers, fries, chicken fingers, etc. And then there are the sugars and energy drinks…

Too many kids today are reliant, habituated and even addicted to processed sugars and energy drinks. Instead of consuming recommended portions of fruits and vegetables, kids are relying on poor sources for their energy throughout the day.

If that isn’t scary enough, their parents are doing the same thing, with kids learning from them – their roles models.

 

GETTING YOUR KIDS TO EATING HEALTHIER:

kid eating healthy snack with womanWhen it comes to healthy eating in households, the general rule of application that’ll most likely work is for parents to set an example, and not merely assert, “Do as I say!” Parents should be their kids’ mentors.

It’s important to set a good standard with healthy eating.

Trying to get your kids to eat properly after all these years of letting them ‘eat wild’ could prove difficult. It’s certainly easier the get kids moving in the right direction early. Step one for any parents then is to get educated themselves and then start influencing their diet when they’re young.

Step two is only bring into the house what you want them to eat. If there’s plenty of fruits and vegetables and no snack or junk foods in the pantry then they’ll eat what’s available.

Kids adapt quickly – much quicker than adults – at times I still look for something sweet at night after dinner with a coffee or tea. It’s habit. But now I’m accustomed and happy with some fruit.

But what if it’s proving difficult with your kids?

Many adults are turning to help from unusual quarters. Hypnosis is one avenue to accomplish this for themselves. Hypnosis is an option to help your kids, not only learn to eat healthy, but want to eat healthy as well.

There’s a kid compelling form of hypnosis which uses a story-telling technique. It’s great for kids as it helps them to listen, and holds their attention. With the parent’s permission and/or they being present, the hypnotist tells the child a story which will bypass their critical conscious mind and seep into the unconscious mind where habits and change is made.

The goal of the hypnotherapist’s story is to transport the child from the mundane of the real world to another time and place, conjuring up rich and colorful imagery and emotions the unconscious mind loves and adopts as realities.

Story telling in hypnotherapy bypasses critical thinking (example: “I don’t want to eat healthy foods because I said so!”), and brings the mind to fun places that feel and have what you want to create as the central theme (example: “See everyone eating healthy and being happier and enjoying life more.“)

Often times, a child’s “Nos” become “Yeses” because their imagination gets fired up through identifying with specific characters, themes and situations in the hypnotist’s story.

If you are having difficulty getting your kids to eat healthy and/or you’re having the same issue, then perhaps it’s time to try hypnosis with them, or for yourselves!

Check out this self-hypnosis session covering healthy eating available for children here >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO GETTING KIDS TO EAT HEALTHY:

How to Handle Picky Eaters – Parenting >>>

10 Amazing Benefits of Storytelling for Kids >>>

Stop Drinking Soda For Your Own Good – Erika Slater >>>

Overcoming Being a Picky Eater >>>

 
Erika Slater CH
Free At Last Hypnosis
Massachusetts

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Stop Drinking Soda For Your Own Good

By Peter Sacco
Soda Drinking Cans

Soda Drinking Cans
This article has been updated to reflect additional studies since the original was written.

Almost every health-related TV show or newspaper/magazine is denouncing processed sugars and of course soft drinks. Are they really that bad? Some media forums are going so far as to call soft drinks “health crushers.”

Why are they suddenly so bad, or have they always been, but we’re just now identifying all of the negative consequences associated with consuming them?

For starters, Harvard Medical School conducted an 11-year study on the effects of diet cola and kidney functioning in 3,000 women.

What they found was eye-opening!

The consumption of diet cola (most likely caused by the diet sweeteners in them) was associated with a two-fold risk for potential kidney decline.

Unfortunately, the not so good information for soda consumption did not end there…

 

YOUR BODY ON SODA BEVERAGES:

High Cholesterol Level MeterA 2008 University of Minnesota study, which studied 10,000 adults found only consuming one diet soda a day was linked to a 34% risk of metabolic syndrome – symptoms that included higher bad cholesterol levels (LDL) and increased belly fat which were both potential catalysts for heart disease.

When you watch TV commercials, or see ads on the Internet or old school billboards on roadsides, often times sodas are portrayed as thirst quenchers or have this magical potential to re-hydrate you immediately.

Just a sip and it’ll quench your thirst!

Ir it’ll recharge you as if you’re stranded in a desert and come across an oasis and one sip is just like jumping into a crystal-clear spring.

Really!

Fact Check: Did you know most soda beverages do just the opposite? If you look on the back of the bottle or can, you’ll most likely see ingredients that make mention to; sodium, caffeine, and of course sugar. These ingredients actually cause greater dehydration, which in all likelihood, will cause you to want to drink more of the beverage.

Now there is an excellent marketing ploy if I ever saw one!

You’re most likely to become a repeat customer not only because of the taste, but because you are still thirsty!

There are some individuals who want to believe soda has nutritional benefits for consumption.

Perhaps the only positive nutritional component to soda would be the carbohydrates that some do possess given their additives. Some individuals would argue the carbs from soda are better than nothing. Perhaps, that’s given you were on a TV show such as Survivor and needed some kind of quick sugar fix before a competition.

However, these carbs are not good to begin with, and you may be better served to consume some kind of leafy vegetation!

Basically, soda is an unnatural substance created from synthetic ingredients. I’m sure some people will point to certain ‘orange’ or ‘fruity’ sodas and say, “Hey, wait a minute, they have Vitamin C in them, they must be good!

Sure, they may have vitamins in them, but are they able to be absorbed by the body given all of the other chemicals in the drink? And, if you read the label you’ll find there’s most likely a ton of sugar in them!

And what about sugar, acid and teeth when consuming soft drinks?

Kid with Soda and HappyThe University of Michigan also did a study which examined dental check-up stats and the amount of soda consumed. They found soda drinkers are more likely to have higher rates of tooth decay, more fillings and even more missing teeth.

Moreover, adults and kids who drink more than three sodas per day were the ones whom were reported to have the worst dental health!

Even when sodas are “sugar free” or of the diet variety, they still contain high acidic levels, some as high has having a pH of 3.2 which is linked to dissolving tooth enamel.

And what about the soft drinks with the sugar and caffeine?

When individuals consume beverages with high contents of sugar as well as caffeine they’re more likely to become addicted to these two substances over a period of time, or at least habituated in having a need to consume it on a constant basis.

It’s similar to someone with a coffee addiction whereby they have to have one or more cups a day, often times loaded up with white processed sugar as this gives them the energy they need.

When the sugar and caffeine fix wears off, they require more to pick them up again. It’s a vicious circle and easily dismissed as harmlessly just satisfying a “call from your body for more” of the same – but that’s what addiction is all about!

Most soda beverages contain large amounts of fructose corn syrup, which is a derivative from corn.

More research has come forth asserting too much corn crops are genetically modified today with little long-term studies showing the effects of these synthetic, chemical processes on the human body. This could be a concern because the manufacturing process for making high fructose corn syrup includes the involvement of trace mercury.

We know from studies mercury can cause several long-term health problems.

Having the occasional soda for most of us is unlikely to hurt or kill us! With that said, the greater concern is for those individuals who are addicted to soda pops, or drink them more than they should.

These folks – maybe you – need to get off soda fast and here’s some suggestions to help…

 

WAYS TO GET OFF THE SODA DRINKING HABIT:

Water CoolerThe key to kicking the soda drinking habit is consuming in moderation, and not because it’s cheap, accessible, or because everyone else is doing it (please refer to TV commercials).

The best and most effective approach is to quit cold turkey – stop consuming soda pop and other beverages containing high acidic levels and sugars.

In fact, these beverages can often times be replaced with natural “sugar” beverages in the form of pure juices from both fruits and vegetables.

The energy derived from these types of drinks, especially from a juicer are more intense, lasting and of course healthier.

Replace with good ole water. Your body needs water to survive and has to work hard at extracting what it can from any chemically-loaded beverages you consume. Why not make it less work for your body give it pure neat water?

If water out of your tap concerns you and the expense of buying bottled water irks you then sign-up for a water delivery service. For $20 a month you can have quality water delivered to your home and the water fountain is free from most companies.

If it’s the ‘soda bubbles’ (carbonated water) you like most about sodas, then there are soda bubble machines for carbonating your water, and you can add natural flavors and sweeteners to it and get your own ready-made soda as a healthy alternative.

There are also dietary and nutrition group’s people can join, as well as weight loss clinics which help people learn to eat and drink healthy.

If you feel you can’t, or don’t want to, get through a day without your minimum soda pop consumption then maybe it’s time to admit you’ve an “addiction” issue and it’s time to do something about it.

Most local hypnotherapists should be able to help you in just a few sessions. If you’re interested in more information about our own weight loss hypnosis service then click here or contact us here.

If you’d prefer to do self-hypnosis and ready to kick your soda drinking addiction then challenge yourself to succeed by checking out this hypnosis MP3 session here >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES TO STOP DRINKING SODA:

10 Reasons to Give Up Diet Soda – Helath.com >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Lose Weight? And Keep It Off! >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Overcome Sugar Addiction? >>>

Overcoming Energy Drink Addiction – The Caffeine and Sugar Trap >>>

Introduction to Emotional Eating Disorder >>>

The Most Important Secrets to Permanent Weight Loss >>>

Short Program Sugar Addiction Hypnosis Service >>>

Caffeine Myths and Facts – WebMD >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

All About Fat Loss and Laser-Like Lipo Therapy >>> 

 

Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Editor
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Hypnosis is Yoga for the Mind – Flexibility for Your Brain

By Erika Slater
Yoga for the Mind Concept Image

Yoga for the Mind Concept Image

Are you familiar with yoga? First impressions of it are usually a fascination of people in weirdly unusual body positions. That’s a start but it’s much more.

Perhaps you even practice yoga in your daily living. If you do then you know there’s a richness to it you can’t understand unless you experience it.

Have you ever tried hypnosis? First impression of it is people with their eyes closed just like meditation.

Maybe you use hypnosis in your life as well. If you do then you know the life changing tool you have as your unconscious mind and it’s premise is different than meditation. I use it to get people I see in my stop smoking hypnosis program and for my weight loss service to relax them before starting the change work with them.

But what about ‘yoga for the mind’? Have you ever heard of this concept before? If not, then read on…

 

WHAT IS YOGA?

Yoga Pose

First off, what is yoga?

Yoga is a rich, spiritual discipline of Hindu origin.

The goal of yoga is to work the entire mind and body. It’s practiced for relaxation and improved overall health.

It’s a mind-body connection activity that incorporates breathing exercises as well as meditation along with body movements.

In a nutshell, it’s a holistic exercise.

Does it work? For those who endeavor in it, you bet it does.

Many people think you need to be flexible to be able to do Yoga.

But the fact is, if you’re not flexible then you’re the perfect candidate for Yoga as the more you practice the more flexible you’ll become.

 

HYPNOSIS IS YOGA FOR THE MIND:

Yoga for the MindHypnosis works the same way as yoga, and you don’t have to do all the moves, breathing and posturing with your body as you do with yoga.

In fact, hot yoga is the fad and if there was ‘hot’ hypnosis, you’d have to be hypnotized in a sauna… just joking!

Hypnosis produces the same relaxation and heightened states of awareness as yoga, only with a more profound sense of tunnel vision. Through tunnel vision, you’re able to isolate, intensify and ingrate your focus on one key perception or experience and hold your concentration there.

Also, better yet, you only see, hear and feel what you choose to place your focus on.

This means you can create the change(s) you wish to see in your life.

Like yoga, hypnosis is a tool which has been used to aid and assist the mind body connection. Individuals using hypnosis have trained their mind to focus on the thoughts they want, and these thoughts will take them in the direction they want to go in.

So, if you want to lose weight, your unconscious mind will create new mental scripts for bringing the body toward a weight loss mindset. If you wanted to quit smoking, your mind would tell your body it no longer smokes, or craves nicotine.

All hypnosis is based on the power of your expectation.

You can think about any goal you want to set for yourself, and plant suggestions in your unconscious mind.

Did you know hypnosis works by setting a goal with the intention of achieving it? This is what hypnosis is all about – intention. Your intentions are created in the conscious mind and through repetition, your unconscious mind embeds them and interprets them as being goals that need to be achieved.

Your unconscious mind then works out ways to help you achieve your goals. The more they become a deep-seated passion, or are shrouded in ‘feelings’, the more likely they’re going to come to pass!

Flexible Mind Concept ImageHypnosis is often considered a ‘mystical’ experience, or total psychological phenomenon.

But there is nothing magical about it. It’s a source to create change through a ‘holistic’ approach.

Hypnosis connects the mind with the body, as well as the conscious mind with the unconscious mind to bring about change for the better.

Earlier I said that those who not flexible can benefit the most from Yoga.

The same is true of hypnosis in that if you posses an inflexible mind you’ll benefit from the flexibility of the mind you’ll get from practicing hypnosis.

Practice Yoga enough and you’ll eventually feel changes happening. The same is true of hypnosis but change happens much faster.

Many people use hypnosis to quiet their mind in preparation for meditation. By the end of the day we have so many thoughts in our head that it becomes difficult to wind down and prepare ourselves for meditation. If you want to consider working directly with me to be less distratced by your thoughts then check out my Hypnosis Services or you can contact me here.

If you’d just like to get into meditation quicker using a self-hypnosis product then check out this Yoga for the Mind session here >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO HYPNOSIS:

Yoga 101 – A Beginner’s Guide to Practice, Meditation, and the Sutra >>>

The Mind Body Connection – 6-Part Series >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Quit Smoking and Ways to Make it Easier >>>

The Eight Habits of Highly Confident People >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Lose Weight? And Keep It Off! >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Overcome Sugar Addiction? >>>

How the Power of Expectations Can Allow You to ‘Bend Reality’ >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Erika Slater CH
Free At Last Hypnosis
Massachusetts

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The Benefits of Deep Forest Relaxation and Forest Therapy

By Peter Sacco
deep forest image

deep forest image

Are you someone who has a hard time seeing the forest from the trees literally?

That is, you’re not too in tune with nature and don’t do the ‘nature walk‘ thingy often, or ever? Are you more of an iron jungle and technology type of person, whereby everything that surrounds you is usually of a 9 to 5 mentality?

Then perhaps you’re someone who could benefit from starting to see both the forest and the trees together and start connecting with your natural roots!

Or maybe you remember those days when you did spend time in your favorite forest but haven’t had the chance for many years, and long to experience the peace and connection once again.

When was the last time you went on a nature walk?

Did you know research is being done to investigate the health benefits of spending time in a forest and this is now called ‘Forest Therapy’? Yes, there are studies going on all over the world and particularly in Japan.

But what’s Forest Therapy all about?

 

WHAT’S THE BENEFITS OF FOREST THERAPY?

Forest Walk hiking ImageForests have a calming effect on us.

Research is showing forest therapy has honest to goodness physiological and mental health benefits? The Japanese refer to forest therapy as ‘forest bathing’ where you literally sponge up the benefits of spending time in the forest.

Many people use CD’s or MP3 downloads to simulate the sounds of nature in the background.

These days you can purchase media where the entire themes are purposely composed of nature sounds such as waterfalls, rain, birds singing, and other forest sounds. If you can’t be in nature, then bring the sounds of nature to you. From this experience alone, it allows a mental and/or psychological escape from the mundane, even stressful urban sounds and realities of everyday living.

The fact is you can visit the forest and still be in downtown Manhattan so to speak!

Have you ever noticed television commercials incorporate ‘nature’, usually forests into their themes? When it comes to ‘automobile’ or ‘laundry’ commercials, the message is about escaping the confines of the city and reaping the benefits of deep, nature relaxation in the country.

By using ‘their product’, they lead you to feel this ‘relaxation’ is possible… of course when buying their product.

The famous medical doctor and author/personality Dr. Andrew Weil asserts spending time in the forest and engaging in deep forest relaxation can lower levels of salivary cortisol, the hormone that rises when we’re under stress, and can lower blood pressure and pulse rate. Furthermore, it can trigger dramatic increased in the activity of natural killer (NK) cells, which are produced by the immune system to fight off or prevent infections and cancer cells.

How much time does one have to spend in the forest to reap the benefits of forest therapy?

Apparently, researchers from Japan have found spending three days in the forest increases natural killer cell activity by 50%, and this effect can last up to one month! Even more intriguing findings came from spending time in forests or activities that were forest related.

Forest in JapanA Japanese study showed that just gazing at forest scenery for 20 minutes reduced salivary cortisol levels by 13.4 percent, bringing them down to lower-than-average concentrations among city dwellers.

The Japanese practice ‘Shinrin-yoku’ which translated means a ‘medicine’ for the mind by basically spending time in a forest.

They refer to it as ‘forest bathing’ and taking in through all of the senses – sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, everything the forest offers.

This approach began in the 1980’s and has become a cornerstone for Japanese health in terms of it being a form of preventative medicine.

Many companies, in Japanese cities, started making employees ‘exercise’ outside during workhours on rooftops (Of course there are no forests in the cities) as they hoped by spending some time in natural elements it would create a healthier mind and body.

The hope was workers would be more productive both physically and psychologically, and there would be less sick days.

Western medicine for many years – and unfortunately many Doctors still today – were skeptical of anything not based in scientific fact, and even with evidence of these studies the scientific community still doesn’t get the powers of eastern preventative medicine. Western medicine still deals mostly in remedies to help you get better when you’re sick, rather than preventing sickness.

But it’s changing as alternatives like mindfulness and hypnosis are used to compliment medicines for healing.

So, you’ve decided to reconnect with nature but what if your nearest or favorite forest is 100’s of miles away or it’s the middle of winter? Here’s where you bring the forest to you…

 

BRINGING THE FOREST TO YOU:

Deep Forest RiverThis means you don’t necessarily have to always be spending time in the actual forest to get the benefits, rather it’s your perception of your surroundings which have much to do with how you feel. It’s the perceived sights, sounds and smells associated with trees, birds, running streams, and wildlife which seem to reconnect humans to nature and help them feel refreshed and revitalized!

The earlier experiments conducted in Japan were interesting in the fact the mind itself can be led to believe even though the entire body is in the city, the mind can still escape to nature… a virtual forest!

When the mind is able to escape to a forest, even in one’s imagination, or through the power of suggestion, hypnosis or self-hypnosis, the health benefits are remarkable! The studies conducted in Japan showed the participants who were tested demonstrated more favorable and healthy outlooks after spending time in ‘cyber forests’.

After viewing forest-based sceneries, the participants in the study reported possessing higher rates of feeling vigor, and also feeling remarkably refreshed!

Overall, they felt more comfortable, soothed and at peace in nature.

Furthermore, those individuals who originally felt confused, fatigued, anxious, filled with tension, and even depressed or angry, felt better. The moral of the story; even though being in a forest is definitely relaxing, you don’t necessarily need a real one if your mind believes it’s capable of escaping to one.

What if you’re not always able to spend time in a forest, especially if you live somewhere where there are none, or climate does not allow it?

Well then, time to bring the forest to you!

One of the best ways to create forest therapy in your own home is through visualization and hypnosis. From the results of the experiments just discussed, it’s easy to simulate a relaxing ‘forest experience’ in your mind, anytime and anywhere.

Where your thoughts go, your energy will flow.

If you truly believe you’re in a forest, or floating on a small sailboat on a stunning, turquoise body of water, then that’ll be your reality. It’s all a mindset you get to create for yourself, and a hypnosis CD or MP3 can help you get there much faster!

You can get wonderful CD’s and MP3’s with all the background sounds of the forest which places you there in the here and now, even if you’re in the Nevada desert, or locked in a New England winter! These are readily available from Amazon.

But with these CD’s you don’t get the power of combining those sounds with hypnosis and going into a deeper state of relaxation and healing of stress and the capacity for peace.

It’s all about perception and combining these sounds with hypnosis, your unconscious mind is unable to tell the difference. It can be told you’re in the forest and therefore reap many of the benefits of being in a simulated forest.

Finally, here at Free At Last Hypnosis we practice what we preach. We leverage concepts discussed here as a resource during our online and in-office sessions for our stress and anxiety hypnosis management program which you can learn more about it here >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO RELAXATION:

Andrew Weil >>>

FREE Sanctuary MP3 Download >>>

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Forest Therapy Taking Root >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
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Practicing Self-Compassion – How to Be Kinder to Yourself

By Erika Slater
Self-Compassion Title Image

Self-Compassion Title Image
How compassionate and kind are you to other people, especially family and close friends?

The world is full of random acts of kindness despite what the media dishes up everyday for so-called news – doing kind things for others just doesn’t make compelling news these days I’m afraid!

Would you go the extra mile for a co-worker or even someone you just met if they needed your help? I’m sure most people reading this would give the “shirt off of their back” for a complete stranger if they were in dire need of your help.

Interestingly, too many people don’t share the same kind of deep self-compassion for themselves. They’re quick to find fault in themselves and “beat themselves up” verbally when something goes wrong or when they make a mistake.

self compassion book imageIn reality, they don’t think enough of themselves to give the same kind of care, kindness and compassion as they would give to other people.

Self-compassion has been written about by Dr. Kristin Neff in her 2011 book titled; Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself – see resource section below.

Dr. Neff has defined self-compassion as being composed of three main ingredients: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

This isn’t an article solely promoting her book, although I’d encourage you to read it to get a deeper understanding of the topic, but instead I’m going to focus on the self-kindness element today.

But I’m getting a little ahead of myself as I want to discuss first why we wouldn’t be self-compassionate to ourselves, yet be compassionate to a complete stranger?

 

THE REASONS WHY WE LACK SELF-COMPASSION:

Kindness Matters SignGrowing-up in today’s society having self-compassion seems to smack of self-pity, being self-centered and even being selfish, childish and even irresponsible. We tell ourselves “how dare you treat yourself with kindness when there is so much suffering in the world?

Now, I know we may not say those actual words to ourselves but the thought is there in one form or another.

So, our lack of self-compassion is learned. We’re not born without kindness towards ourselves. It’s a combination of events that happened to us, and its foundation can be found many times in childhood. Parents, family, friends can be influential role-models, and if we’re exposed every day to charity towards others but not ourselves then this “environment” can pollute our self-kindness pond.

Poor self-esteem often comes out of childhood and while this doesn’t mean an abusive environment nonetheless our lack of self-esteem can contribute significantly to our lack of self-compassion. The problem is lack of self-esteem leads to the belief you’re not a worthy recipient of your own self-care, or own self-compassion. This is very sad!

In some ways, we can develop a sense of masochism or self-martyrdom based on the irrational beliefs we created and perpetuated for ourselves that, “Good things happen to other people, just not me!

And this is carried forward into our adult lives!

Compassion for Others Concept ImageBeing altruistic is an excellent quality – giving to others out of complete love, kindness and compassion without expecting anything in return.

This idea of self-sacrifice is a pretty refreshing prospect in a day and age where society has evolved into a time of entitlement, and ‘meme’ generation. The problem arises in so many individuals today, at least those who still believe in giving to others, that they themselves aren’t worthy of receiving any compassion in return.

I’m not talking about monetary reciprocity here, rather a sense of feeling wanted, needed or loved by others.

It’s interesting how people lack self-compassion when it comes to themselves but sacrifice freely, even get taken advantage of, because they don’t practice self-compassion.

If these individuals witnessed an individual being exploited or abused, they would most likely step in and help out of compassion. When it comes to them, they tolerate it, or just complain about it and then let it happen again and again.

So, you see we’ve become both intolerant when it comes to others being treated poorly but tolerant when we’re being treated badly.

But it doesn’t and shouldn’t be that way. The time to change is now.

But how?

 

BUILDING A LIFE OF SELF-COMPASSION:

Self Respect Concept ImageIf this is ever going to change, then it must start with developing a greater sense of self-respect for oneself.

This comes about by building self-compassion.

It’s never too late to build and increase your self-compassion!

Self-compassion comes from thinking better about yourself!

You have to believe you’re worthy of a great life, and deserving of great things happening to you. You have to be the catalyst to get this process started, and it comes about by changing your thinking. Remember thoughts lead to feelings and it’s time to have good feelings towards yourself.

Dr. Neff identifies five myths many people hold about self-compassion that stops them being in the right place to practice self-compassion. These are thinking:

  1. It’s a form of self-pity. 
  2. It means weakness.
  3. It’ll make me complacent.
  4. I’ll be seen as a narcissist.
  5. It’s selfish.

In exploding these myths you’ll be able to build-up your muscle of self-compassion.

1. Self-Pity:

We all hate a whiner and so if you’ve a tendency to confuse self-compassion with self-pity then its understandable why you feel its not for you. But self-pity is all about feeling sorry for yourself. Self-compassion doesn’t attempt to tune out the bad stuff – it happens – but instead makes us more willing to accept, experience and acknowledge difficult feelings with kindness.

2. It means weakness:

Dr. Neff says, “… instead of being a weakness, researchers are discovering that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience available to us. When we go through major life crises, self-compassion appears to make all the difference in our ability to survive and even thrive.” Divorce is often cited as an example of needing to hold tough and not give in especially when the emotional toll can seem to be unbearable. Yet, studies have shown those who instead of holding tough and blaming themselves for what happened, look for the best to take away from the ending marriage, invariably have the strength to cope better.

3. It’ll make me complacent:

Here again Dr. Neff warns us about falling into this trap: “Perhaps the biggest block to self-compassion is the belief that it’ll undermine our motivation to push ourselves to do better. The idea is that if we don’t criticize ourselves for failing to live up to our standards, we’ll automatically succumb to slothful defeatism.” To be clear, we do need honest recognition of a failure or a mistake so we can do better next time, so self-compassion isn’t about sugar-coating or sweeping a mistake under the carpet. But by adopting an approach that cuts yourself some slack and looks to learn to progress, and figuring out what additional support you need to do better, then being complacent isn’t allowed entry into your feelings. Acknowledge your failures and misdeeds with kindness.

4. I’ll be seen as a narcissist:

Narcissistic Young Man ImageThe problem with how we view self-esteem today is it tends to be at the expense of somebody else. In order to give ourselves a boost in self-esteem we have to knock somebody else down.

Like the bully in the school yard who wants to appear the cool kid by bringing down the wimpy nerd.

As parents, we build up our kid’s self-esteem by telling them how great and special they are.

The fact is there’s always somebody who’s better looking, smarter, faster, stronger so, a self-esteem built up this way is destined for a crash as they begin to compare themselves to others and conclude they don’t cut it in every area.

Again Dr. Neff shares on this myth: “But self-compassion is different from self-esteem. Although they’re both strongly linked to psychological wellbeing, self-esteem is a positive evaluation of self-worth, while self-compassion isn’t a judgment or an evaluation at all. Instead, self-compassion is way of relating to the ever-changing landscape of who we are with kindness and acceptance—especially when we fail or feel inadequate. In other words, self-esteem requires feeling better than others, whereas self-compassion requires acknowledging that we share the human condition of imperfection.

Dr. Neff adds: “Self-compassionate people are better able to remain emotionally stable, regardless of the degree of praise they receive from others.

5. It’s selfish:

Let’s answer this myth by starting out with another question – Is compassion a zero-sum game? Is there only a certain amount of compassion you have to go around and if you use some of it for yourself does that mean you have less to go around for others? It’s a little like saying well I love my children but if I love them too much then there may not be any left for my spouse? Of course, this is absurd, because this way of thinking measures “love” as a finite commodity we can use up.

Family Happiness Concept ImageBut what of those who were brought up to care more for others than themselves? Even society has reinforced it. If you’re a woman, then you know only too well this is true as we tend to have lower levels of self-compassion than men. For sure our compassion is higher as we tend to be more caring, empathetic and giving towards others. Just look at any group of volunteer caregivers and tell me what proportion of woman to men is? But when it comes to self-compassion we are surely lacking.

If we use compassion towards ourselves then we’ll be less compassionate towards others because its all gone, right? The fact is studies have shown when we’re kind and nurturing to ourselves then many of our emotional needs are met, and we are better positioned to focus and help others. It turns out being good to yourself helps you be good to others – what a pleasant paradox!

Once again, I’ll let Dr. Neff have the final say on this myth: “Therapists have known for a long time that being kind to ourselves isn’t—as is too often believed—a selfish luxury, but the exercise of a gift that makes us happier.”

So, the aim of sharing these myths was to both destroy them but also give you ways of building more self-compassion. I believe by having more self-compassion we’ll build the right kind of self-esteem naturally.

 

FINAL WORD:

Some of you reading this may need more practical help than just reading an article and expecting tomorrow will be all different, and you’ll have oceans of self-compassion and never beat yourself up again.

Sorry, but at times you’ll still slip into treating yourself badly – I can’t give you a change pill.

It’s a journey and so will take time. But you can speed up the process by the use of hypnosis.

Self Hypnosis session Concept ImageHypnosis is one way to increase the positive and productive thoughts you need to lead to a greater sense of self and improved self-compassion. Your old negative thoughts have been allowed to fester and remain far too long. For example, smokers who have tried to quit more than once and “failed” sometimes “beat themselves up” believing they’re destined to always be a smoker. This isn’t true and they just need to have more compassion for themselves and continue to search for the right method to quit for themselves and set the right expectations.

Hypnosis can help change these instantly and help you create the self-compassion you deserve and will make you a more compassionate person for others as well.

If you decide to go down this path then your options are to see a local hypnotist who has embraced mindfulness and self-compassion in their practice teachings, or find a self-hypnosis session you can download to begin your new journey. If you’re interested in more information about my own online or in-office confidence and self-esteem hypnosis program then click here or contact me here.

When checking out self-hypnosis products look for a program that covers a number of areas we’ve discussed today. The self-respect session available at hypnosis downloads is one of their program sessions on this topic. You can check it out here >>>

Let me know how you enjoyed his article. Self-compassion is a topic I want to explore more and so look out for companion articles.

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO SELF-COMPASSION:

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself – Dr. Kristin Neff

The Five Myths of Self-Compassion

Introduction to Mindfulness (4-part series)

The Eight Habits of Highly Confident People >>>

Stop Smoking Hypnosis Session – What to Expect for Success >>>

8 Random Acts of Self-Kindness

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Erika Slater CH
Free At Last Hypnosis
Massachusetts

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Natural Anti-Aging – Turning Back the Clock to Feel Younger

By Erika Slater
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natural anti-aging concept image
Many people wish they could turn back the clock when it comes to aging.

Can you?

Well, let’s explore this in today’s post.

Let’s start where you are today. Give this some thought… did you ever think you’d get to be this old so fast? Sorry if the thought has turned you into a tailspin, but it does seem that the second half of our life rushes past us at an accelerated rate over the first half – regardless of the age you’ve reached today.

We also define our ages differently as well depending on where you are today.

Senior Woman Flexibility ImageThinking back to when you were a young teenager likely those in their twenties were your boundary of an old person. Somebody in their 20’s reflects on the movements of a 60 or 70-year old person as being slow and stooping with the aid of a cane to get from A to B.

The truth is many folks beyond sixties who keep trim and fit can do activities and exercises that are beyond teenagers or folks in their twenties or thirties.

It seems like ‘just yesterday’ when you most likely thought getting older was a long way away, but something cruel happened along the way… time continued to move on and guess what, you grew older!

That is one way of looking at it, or perhaps the positive slant is much more appealing for you.

The fact you’re reading this means you’re alive, which means, you’ve survived beyond most of the world’s population in terms of life expectancy. Furthermore, it means hopefully you’re not only older… but wiser!

We’ve got a lot to cover today so fasten your seat belt and let’s get going…

 

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT GETTING OLD?

They say age is nothing more than a chronological marker between time periods. Also, they say you’re only as old as you think and feel.

So, with that in mind, do you feel old?

Are you starting to use all of the ‘Fountain of Youth’ products to try to look and feel younger? There’s nothing wrong with one’s youthful vanity, especially if it works for you, and makes you feel better about yourself.

With that said, to truly feel young at heart realize it’s an inside job and all of the cosmetic surgeries, ‘youth creams’ and other serums and pills won’t help you accomplish what needs to be an inside job.

Feeling young and even feeling ‘younger’ is all about the way you think about yourself!

Senior Male Reflection in Mirror ImageWhen did you actually start to feel ‘old’? Why did you start to feel ‘old’?

Most people assert “the day of reckoning” for them was when they could no longer function physically at levels they were once able to, thus not allowing them to perform the same tasks as effectively. This can lead folks to feel less adequate and even inferior.

Some individuals see themselves in photos from ages past or catch a glimpse in the mirror today and shake their heads. Where did the time go? This can make people look at their lives and feel regret for things they never accomplished, that they had hoped to get done by today.

This can become very disheartening.

These folks wish they could turn back the clock, be young again and chase down their dreams, and get them done this time. For some, feeling old means lost or missed opportunities!

Even the term “feeling old” when said, instantly conjures up negative emotions. But remember it’s just a feeling of a thought in the moment. It’s NOT a predictor of your future.

In fact, there are many natural things you can do to inhibit that “feeling” of being old…

 

NATURAL WAYS TO COMBAT AGING:

Despite the title of this post aging is a natural process for our bodies, and 50-years of age means you’re 50-years old.

But we can delay and even “turn back the clock” for some of the physical and “feeling” aspects of age, and this is what we’ll discuss in this section covering:

• Exercise
• Nutrition
• Mindset

Regular exercise and healthy nutrition impact our physical well-being. Most of us are born with a “perfect” body. If we take care of it throughout our life it’ll take care of us. It’ll even put up with some contamination, but given the right care it’ll always revert to this “perfect” natural state for us.

Now I understand most of us know children and adults who were not born with a “perfect” body or chemistry or it became diseased or “broken” and hasn’t recovered. Maybe this is even you?

I’m not out to offend anybody but I would argue for most of these folks even they’ve a “perfect” body state for them looking to always return to its natural state.

EXERCISE:

Senior Couple Walking Exercise Concept ImageExercise is misunderstood these days. We’re bombarded with ads and pictures of “perfect” bodies with bulging muscles and six-pack abs. A gym model if you will to get to the “perfect” shape.

While muscle tone is important for our body regardless of age, it’s not the model of exercise I’m talking about here. You want to strengthen your heart and increase body flexibility, and for this sculptured muscles are not required.

For those who haven’t exercised in a while then walking is a great activity to start. It’s even better if you can do it with a friend or listen to your favorite podcast while exercising. This especially works for people who find exercise of any type boring. Start small – 15-20 minutes a day – and build up in both duration and speed.

For flexibility try Yoga or Tai Chi. By all means do exercises for muscle tone but lifting weights or spending hours on a machine are not required unless you’ve already into this type of a program for other goals.

Finally, for the heart you can’t beat running or swimming as  it exercises the most muscle groups at one time. While any exercise helps the heart these two activities increase the efficiency of your heart more completely than any other exercises.

NUTRITION:

Healthy Foods ImageGarbage In… Garbage Out.

What we put into our bodies is its fuel. A car needs clean gas to run efficiently, but put in contaminated or dirty gas then it doesn’t run so well and eventually the engine breaks down and you’re looking at a major service.

The metaphor of clean gas for a car and for our body translates to avoiding contaminating the fuel we put inside our body. Pile it up with processed foods and carbohydrates and sugar and you have the obesity epidemic now raging over much of the U.S.

These foods are just not good fuel for your body.

I don’t have a diet or recipe for you other than likely you know what isn’t good for your body. Most of us will age finely if we provide our body with plenty of vegetables and protein and a low carbohydrate diet.

Does this mean you can’t enjoy grains, pasta, a cookie? No, just in moderation. And if I have to define moderation for you then whose kidding who here?

MINDSET:

Youthful Mindset Concept ImageI’ve saved the most important for last. Have the right mindset and the exercise and nutrition will fall into place because it’ll support your new attitude of anti-aging!

Since feeling old or young is a mindset, you need to change the thoughts and perceptions you have about it.

Time out for a minute: What is Mindset?

It’s a word bandied about but can be confusing. In raw terms, it’s your accepted set of attitudes and assumptions about a topic.

People like to talk about positive and negative mindsets but frankly it’s impossible to have a positive or negative mindset about everything.

You have an attitude most likely about exercise, nutrition, your relationships, your work and career, etc. At various times and depending on the topic these can be positive or negative at the same time for different aspects of your life.

But the mindset I’m talking about in this post relates to your mindset about your age. In particular, how to make it a positive mindset so you don’t keep returning to “woe is me” each time you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror.

Changing your mindset around age means supplanting all the negative patterns in your “unconscious mind” you’ve built up over time.

One of the best ways to tap into your ‘unconscious’ pattern of feeling old is through hypnosis.

Not Tool Old Never Too late QuoteYour unconscious mind has accepted negativity and the clutter around it, and it needs to be purged. You may have told yourself you’re “too old!” The “train has left the station and I wasn’t on it!” Feel this way too many times and your unconscious mind will accept it and you live accordingly.

Does this sound like you?

Hypnosis can help you ‘implant’ positive, youngish thoughts about yourself which can lead you to feel good about yourself. These unconscious suggestions can and will replace the old negative patterns. Hypnosis can also help in changing and installing new habits such as exercising and eating healthy.

Hypnosis can be practiced in your home using self-hypnosis programs or you can visit a local hypnotist to provide guidance and direction to make the changes faster.

In just a few hypnosis sessions you’ll not only feel better about yourself, but also “younger.”

When you look in the mirror you’ll start seeing someone you’re happy seeing, rather than being critical of where you are today. If you want to consider working directly with me on your attitude through my online or in-office sessions then check out my Hypnosis Services or if you’ve a specific need then contact me here.

Alternative, if prefer to get a natural anti-aging attitude using self-hypnosis, then check out this self-hypnosis session you can download here >>> 

So, we set out with the question of “Can you turn back the clock and feel younger using natural anti-aging?

By getting a change in your mindset, exercising regularly and eating healthy you’ll amaze yourself by having more energy, feeling younger and slowing down your aging process.

The answer then is… yes you can. Now it’s time for you to take the first step and get started in feeling younger today.

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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO ANTI-AGING:

7 Anti-Aging Beauty Treatments You Can Make At Home

5 Natural Anti-Aging Secrets From Around the World

Simple Ways to Overcome Fear of Growing Old Alone – Erika Slater

Aging Gracefully and Naturally – WebMD

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
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Estranged Adult Children – The Parents Side of the Story

By Erika Slater
Estranged Adult Child Concept Image

Estranged Adult Child Concept Image

No one ever said being a parent would be a “walk in the woods” – I’ve had three myself, on and some days it feels more like “climbing Everest without oxygen!”

In fact, once you’re a parent, you’re always a parent for life. You never stop worrying about your kids because they’re a part of you, and no matter how old they are, they’ll always be your ‘wee’ ones.

So when your kids go through difficult or trying times, you want to do anything and everything to fix things, making sure they’re okay. After all, you’re their parent and its part of the unwritten job description.

A lot has been written about kids going growing up and the changes they encounter and have to make, but not much material or attention has been focused on the other side as regards the impact on parents.

Although helping them is your best intention because you love and worry about them, it’s important to realize these challenges can be hard on you, and you have to have coping mechanisms in place so you don’t lose your own mind along the way.

There’s also the concern your attempts at helping them can be seen by your children as interfering and causing the distance between you both to widen.

 

WHAT’S HAPPENING TO MY CHILD?

Adolescence Teenagers Concept ImageSometimes it can help to understand the changes your child is experiencing both physically and mentally to provide the space and support they need to avoid constant confrontation between you both.

Apart from the hormone changes their body is experiencing they’re also growing in mental awareness and making choices with their peers influence more than yours, along with becoming concerned about philosophy, politics and social issues.

Often times, when your kids enter their teen years, and eventually their young adult years, they go through trying times.

They’re looking to find or create their own identities, creating realistic goals, finding out what it is they want to do in life, dating and starting relationships, getting caught up in peer pressures, and of course relating to you, now as adults.

It seems the dynamics of their lives and relationships are constantly changing, and they question you the parent, as well as themselves.

You’ll be reminded your adult kids are “Just finding their way” in life, or “Going through a phase.” I know this doesn’t sound very comforting, but rest assured these are growing pains which will make them better individuals.

As a matter of fact, remember you most likely went through these ‘phases’ yourself!

 

WHAT’S GOOD FOR YOU?

Mother and Daughter Embracing Image The amount of stress you could experience going through your adult kids’ ‘phases’ of storm and stress can be overwhelming. It’s important you not become stressed out to the point whereby it’s diminishing the quality and satisfaction in your own life and relationships with other family members and friends.

Too often, parents take what their adult kids are going through as a personal reflection of their failure as a parent.

When this happens, parents tend to not only second guess their abilities in being a good parent, but also the confidence they have in themselves as being an overall good person.

You have to believe in yourself as a person and a parent, and sometimes one’s negative self-talk can bring you down.

Certainly if you feel the distance between you and your adult child is too wide a gulf to bridge without help, and you both recognize this and want to do something about it, then professional family therapy may be an avenue to explore.

Many times though even if you want to do something about it your adult child doesn’t or isn’t ready to try. If this is your situation, then Hypnosis is can be an option for getting one’s mind back on track.

It’s an excellent option for two reasons…

First of all, hypnosis can help ‘de-stress’ you. When you’re stressed out over situations you’ve no control over, it can weigh heavily on you and begin to take a toll on your body and mind. This can lead to physical ailments as well as mental health issues. Hypnosis can help you to relax both your mind and body.

Secondly, hypnosis can also help build self-confidence. If you’ve gotten to the point whereby you’re questioning your abilities as a parent, hypnosis can help reaffirm the qualities in the past that made you a ‘good’ parent, and prepare you with more post-hypnotic suggestions in order for you to feel even better about yourself going forward. If you want to consider working directly with me through my online or in-office sessions then check out my Special Hypnosis Services Programs or if you’ve a more specific need around this topic then contact me here.

Alternatively, here’s a self-hypnosis session to check out to see if it can help reduce your stress over having an estranged adult child >>>

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN:

When the Ties that Bind Unravel?

Pattern Interrupt – Breaking the Habit – Erika Slater

Overcoming a Troubled Childhood – Moving Beyond Adult Chains >>>

The Growing Child: Adolescent Years

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Erika Slater CH
Director
Free At Last Hypnosis

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How to Come Back from Burnout

By Peter Sacco

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Have you ever felt like you are at the end of your rope when it comes to having energy and stamina?

What about when you feel like you are “just losing it” when it comes to your emotions? Perhaps you are feeling so stressed out that your emotions are going up and down like a crazy rollercoaster, or they have gotten to the point where you just feel completely numb.

Do you have problems remembering things that the simplest tasks seem like dreadful chores, or trying to remember a name seems like a major skill testing question?

Has it gotten to the point where you literally feel like you are going insane and just want to run away and be left completely alone?

If you have answered “yes” to most or all of these questions, you may definitely be at the stage of burnout.

Burnout can come in many forms and faces.

Often times one doesn’t know that they have reached the ultimate level of burnout until they reach “burnout”. Most people deal with life stresses each and every day and are able to manage things, or at least keep things in check from running them down. When they do get run down, it may result in shoulder/neck soreness and stiffness, and other minor aches or pains. Check out this free self-stress test here.

Some individuals will tax their immune systems during prolonged periods of stress and wind up with colds. Some folks may begin to suffer from headaches and stomach problems.

In most instances, the intensity of these ailments gets nullified or corrected when the individual is able to take a break in the form of a vacation from whatever is stressing them out.

Unfortunately, when you are unable to take a vacation or break from what is completely stressing you out, and you keep going and going, you may cope with things, truly believing that you are managing things, waiting for that break to eventually happen, but then things one day get out of hand and you literally begin to feel like a shell of yourself.

Most people can deal with and cope with stress for a short period of time, but too many lose track of how long they have actually been “coping” and it becomes a long-term thing!

When you start to feel that life is a burden, i.e.; getting up in the mornings is such a chore, you dread or even fear getting up in the mornings, you feel depressed, you feel nervous, experience episodes of anxiety, you are always tired but have difficulty sleeping soundly, you need to drink alcohol or take sedatives to calm you, you want to isolate yourself from everyone and everything, then you know that you are at burnout.

It is not a pleasant feeling in the least and can render you helpless.

If left untreated, it can lead to a serious anxiety disorder, phobias and even chronic depression. The key is to stop it and nip it in the bud!

Many people opt for medication from psychiatrists, GP’s or self-medicate using sleeping pills (Gravol or Benadryl, etc.) or even drink and they believe it takes the edge off. It may make them feel better for a short period of time, but the underlying problem is still there.

The individual needs a vacation and time to recharge their physical, mental and emotional batteries.

Hypnosis is one of the most immediate and lasting treatments for burnout.

Since the mind has become anxious, stressed and tired, hypnosis can help in undoing the negative damage that has been done to the unconscious mind by training it to have and focus on positive thoughts. If you want to discuss working directly with us on your particular issue to see if we can help and advise you on a next step, then check out our Hypnosis Services or you can contact us here.

Alternatively, if you feel like you need to get relief quickly and prefer a self-hypnosis product then check out this self-hypnosis session specially designed to help with burn-out… check it out here >>>

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO COMING BACK FROM BURNOUT:

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Stress and Anxiety Hypnosis Management Program – Erika Slater CH >>>

Confidence and Self-Esteem Hypnosis Program – Erika Slater CH >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Editor
Free At Last Hypnosis

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