Health and Wellness

Erika Slater Head and upper torso image2Health and Wellness is all about what we do on a regular basis to maintain our physical and mental condition – essentially, how we take care of ourselves.

We know now that it’s not just about paying attention to our physical health by eating healthy and nourishing foods to fuel and heal our physical body, but also how we treat ourselves mentally and spiritually. Quality sleep, daily quiet time practicing mediation/mindfulness, and being compassionate and kind to ourselves is as important as doing the same to others.

The quality of life starts with having a sound body and mind and the selection of materials you’ll find here cover insights into natural therapies, our mind-body connections, nutrition and weight management, stress, slowing the aging process and much more.

Enjoy the articles.

Coping with an Asperger’s Partner

By Peter Sacco
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Autism Concept Image

Living with an Asperger’s Partner can be very difficult

Are you married to someone who has Asperger’s Syndrome?

Whether or not your partner was diagnosed with it, you may still see all of the signs and symptoms, sometimes feeling like you are fighting a losing battle. It’s no secret that living with someone who has Aspergers Syndrome can be very draining!

For those of you who are not too familiar with Asperger’s syndrome, here is a quick rundown on some of the more prevalent symptoms and behaviors.

First, the most notable feature in those with the disorder is that they demonstrate difficulties in social interaction. Many of these individuals have difficulty expressing themselves appropriately in the right context around other people and in most social interactions.

For kids with Asperger’s, they often act out repetitive patterns of behavior and interests.

NOTE: Asperger’s is commonly diagnosed in late teenage years. Typically they can receive a diagnosis of PDD  or even High-Functional Autism.

There are many other characteristics of Asperger s syndrome which include areas where one’s social skills are greatly lacking. Many Asperger’s individuals lack nonverbal communication skills.

When you think about it, nearly 85% or more of our communication is non-verbal.

Someone with Asperger’s syndrome often times is not able to pick up underlying messages in non-verbal communication which can make it trying for people communicating with them. Furthermore, many folks with this syndrome possess limited empathy skills, which is their ability to emotionally relate to other people.

This sometimes makes them appear as an outcast, or perceived as a social deviant. This can lead to the unfortunate label and stigma as a “kid” even when an adult whereby they are viewed as incompetent, difficult to get along with, and even overly aggressive!

Most individuals who have Asperger’s syndrome improve over time with adequate teaching throughout childhood and teenage years, as well as through behavior modification strategies.

Although many possess difficulties with communication, social interaction and independence, which often continues well into their adulthood lives, most individuals do live very healthy, fulfilling, functional lives!

What do you do if you live with someone who has Asperger’s and they are your spouse or partner? After all, they are an adult and if you try to treat them like a child this is not going to bode well for social interactions, not to mention the relationship. Since they have a different guidance system, which may stress you out, but it allows them a sense of normalcy, what can you do to alleviate the stress for you?

Often times even when you are getting stressed out by your partner’s different way of interacting, they may be totally unaware of it, or not able to grasp what they are doing wrong.

Hypnosis is one solution you might try as not only a coping mechanism for dealing with Asperger’s partners in that you are able to de-stress yourself by learning relaxation techniques, but it can also help you learn to block out the irritating nuances of your partner.

By using hypnosis, post-hypnotic suggestions can be implemented that help you not only block out irritating behaviors, but also accept them more readily in a more affectionate way. You see, post-hypnotic suggestions are implanted into the unconscious mind and previous behaviors that would normally set you off are now viewed in a more “affectionate” light whereby you appreciate your partner more. Here at Free At Last Hypnosis we leverage concepts discussed here as a resource during our in-office and online sessions for our stress and anxiety hypnosis management program which you can learn more about it here >>>

It may sound a bit absurd, but where has being frustrated and stressed with your partner gotten you to date?

If you’re at a stage where you feel hypnosis could help you cope better dealing with an Asperger’s partner then check out the resource here >>>

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES TO HELP WITH BEING AN ASPERGER’S PARTNER:

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Editor
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Looking Forward with No Regrets

By Peter Sacco
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Looking Forward Image

Getting stuck in our past poisons our future.

One of the hardest things in life is letting go of the past.

Let’s face it, the past is a very safe place because it has already happened. Guess what? You even know how it is going to turn out.

What is mind boggling is how much people hold onto from the past that was demoralizing, destructive and even damaging to them.

When they do this, they literally add meaning to the saying that “Misery loves company!” and sometimes for as long as that company (the misery caused by regrets) is allowed to stay. If you are someone who deals with regrets from your past, then is article is for you.

Isn’t it time you remove the unwanted guests, also known as misery from your life?

Why do regrets haunt so many people? Why do they lead to regrets?

As mentioned, the past is a safe place because you already know the outcome. Since you know the outcome, you can play the game of mental gymnastics in your head (“Would have, could, should have!“) with no risk factor, other than missing out on good present and future moments as you are too pre-occupied with the past.

With that said, people like to “relive” things hoping that they could undo it, or get it right as a way of appeasing them. Many believe if they could do it over, it would change things as they are now… perhaps!

In order to get past this, you have to realize one thing – things are the way they should be in your life right now. The universe is perfect and you are set up perfectly to act in your life and achieve the outcomes and dreams you most want. The most important part of this formula is believing this to be true.

Once you do, you get past regret and get into a mindset of being a creator!

When you focus on regret it is like driving a car and constantly looking out the back window. Things look small, obscure because the window is smaller. Furthermore, to try and see what you are looking at, you either have to drive ahead slowly, or put the car in reverse – you are not moving forward!

On the other hand, when you looking through the windshield, you know that big window in front of you (the one that shields your eyes from debris, bugs, the wind, etc.) you see everything larger than life ahead of you.

In essence, you are going somewhere! Regrets take you backwards, while goals and dreams bring you forward to amazing places.

In order to get to where you want to go to you have to have a destination picked out.

In this case, you need to know exactly what it is you want and go after it. Meditate on it, visualize it and commit it to your memory. You see, where thoughts go your energy flows.

Your energy will help you flow (go) to the place you most want… forward! You can’t go forward if your energy is pulling you backwards. If you want to discuss working directly with us on your particular issue to see if we can help and advise you on a next step, then check out our Hypnosis Services or you can contact us here.

Alternatively, if you prefer a self-hypnosis product then check out this session to start being spontaneous today and live your life with no regrets!

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO NO REGRETS:

Regression Hypnosis Therapy as a Tool to Remove Influences of the Past >>>

The Eight Habits of Highly Confident People >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products >>>

 
Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Stop and Smell the Roses by Living in the Moment

By Peter Sacco
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Woman Smelling Roses Image

Taking time out to live in the moment is important for our wellness…

I am sure you have heard the expression, “Just stop and smell the roses!” If you haven’t heard that one, then perhaps, “Stop and smell the coffee“?

If you smell the coffee then it might help you to learn to smell the roses for a moment.

Exactly what does smelling the roses mean? It means not only learning to appreciate the moment you are living in, but actually living in that moment!

When you stop to smell the roses or the coffee for that matter, you are turning your senses into a state of high alert. This means that you are “sensing” when you are actively living rather than going with the flow.

When you go with the flow, you are basically living by proxy – letting life happen to you rather than the other way around and making life happen for you. Smelling the roses means living your life with intention!

Too many people endure or exist in their everyday lives. Moreover, many people live for the weekends, you know TGIF (Thank God It’s Friday), or some other monumental moment of significance to happen to them. They are hoping that God, the Universe, or someone shows up in their life and changes things the way they hope they can.

You see, you need to be the change that you want to see in your life and that comes with living life one moment at a time and appreciating those moments for what they are because once they pass you by, they are gone for good!

How many parents have missed out on their children’s lives growing up because they were always too busy with work? How many people neglected their health because they were always going to get around to eating right and exercising? How many people had dreams that they wanted to attain “one day” but never actually set the date for when they wanted that dream to come to fruition, or how they planned on going about attaining and living that dream?

This is because you never stopped to smell the roses.

Sometimes you catch whiffs of the roses or coffee, but are too busy with the other things, you know the more mundane things that life passes you by. What are you willing to do about it now? Ready to stop, smell and catch a big whiff?

The first thing you need to do is to just “live in the moment“! Think about what is really important to you in the present moment and also what you would like to see happen for the short term and the longer term.

The best way to go about this is getting into a place of stillness and removing the clutter from your mind. Meditation CD’s or hypnosis is a great way to just relax the mind and focus on your moment to moment awareness. This helps bring you to a point of clarity – learning about what you really want for yourself and setting goals.

This also helps you to see your goals as achieved and brings you to what you want in your life. In doing this, you set the goals and live life on the terms you choose rather than letting life happen to you and missing out on what is truly important! Hypnosis is a proven method to help people achieve this stillness. If you want to discuss working directly with us on your particular issue to see if we can help and advise you on a next step, then check out our Hypnosis Services or you can contact us here.

Alternatively, if you prefer a self-hypnosis product then check out this session to let your spontaneous inner self out and start living in the moment today.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO TAKING TIME TO APPRECIATE:

Introduction to Mindfulness – Part I >>>

Library of self-hypnosis download products.

 
Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Loving Your Imperfect Partner

By Peter Sacco
imperfect rose image
imperfect rose image

Even things of beauty have imperfections…

Don’t you just wish you could meet the person of your dreams, or already have the partner of your dreams? You know the one that is in every way, shape and form perfect!

The problem with this thinking is that if your partner is “perfect” then they are infallible and therefore since they know what perfection is, then they will expect the same from you… perfection!

Are you perfect?

Okay, get out of your ego for a moment and ask yourself, “Am I really that perfect?” Well, the honest and only answer is no… no one is perfect!

So with that said, you can’t hope for perfection in your partner just like you don’t want to hold yourself accountable for being imperfect! So where do you go from here?

Did you know that most times when we see or look for the imperfections and flaws in others that we are displacing our own flaws onto people? That’s right! It’s like noticing the splinter in the other person’s eye, but not observing the plank that is protruding from your own eye. Incidentally, most times, the one whose imperfections you are pointing out usually doesn’t point out your imperfections because they accept you as you are.

That is what unconditional love is all about!

It’s funny that in the beginning often times the things that you didn’t like in a partner grow on you and you start to find a cute quality in your partner’s quirks, or at least find them tolerable.

It is when you feel frustrated or stressed, and when the relationship may be going through some difficulties is when you begin noticing the imperfections and they can become irritating to you. It is when you are frustrated and stressed that you become less happy and satisfied with your own life that you begin to look for faults in others.

Let’s face it, you know that your partner loves you and will put up with your nitpicking and insults.

That being said, your partner becomes a safe target to displace the hostilities that you have within and direct them outward. It is easier to blame or dislike something about another person, than it is to work on what you don’t like about yourself.

No one is perfect.

All people make mistakes and have flaws. Each year someone lives and becomes older, they should also become wiser.

No one ever said that someone had to love you or accept you. Yet, the partner you may be looking for flaws in accepts and loves you. That is an awesome gift.

When you shift your stance to acknowledging and accepting the fact that someone in this world loves you and thinks that you are great, that should make you feel great! You should be brimming over with love and joy that someone thought you were “worthy” to love, even with your own faults and flaws!

Always look for the beauty in others, especially your partner. When your focus is on that, there is no room for imperfection in your field of vision.

Count yourself blessed that you have someone who has their own blinders on toward what you don’t like about yourself!

If you are someone who needs help loving your imperfect partner check out this resource here.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO PARTNERS:

How to Put the Spark Back in Your Relationship >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products.

 
Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Creating a Permanent and Mindful Change – Part IV

By Peter Sacco
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Mindfulness Concept Image

Thinking positive is important first step in mindfulness…

This is the final part of our introductory series to mindfulness.

So you’ve read this far and want to know more about mindfulness, do you? Great then!

hat means that your conscious mind is truly seeking something for you, a state of being in the moment where your mind is in control.

You’ve realized that you are dissatisfied with the way you think and doing things so that change is in order. Congratulations on taking that first step!

There are two ways you can go about creating the change you want in consciousness that will bring you to the state of mindfulness that you are seeking to achieve.

You can do this either through monitoring your thoughts through moment to moment awareness, or through reconditioning your unconscious mind through hypnosis and self-hypnosis.

Of course, if you combine both of these approaches, then you have a sure-fire success in the making!

The idea of monitoring your thoughts may seem like a burden and even difficult.

You see when you think about it, we all monitor our thoughts in some degree as we have to think them. The more we continually respond the same way, the more our thoughts become automatic. In essence, our thought processing is placed on autopilot much of the time and the unconscious mind does most of the work.

The task then becomes one of thinking differently, more actively if you will.

When you find yourself thinking negatively only you have the ability to stop immediately and create an instant mental shift where you place a positive thought in its place.

You see thoughts create feelings and when you focus on a thought long enough, it is more likely to develop into a feeling. So when you are thinking something negative or judgmental, quickly think something positive.

If that doesn’t work, then look at the situation and find something funny about it. You can only think one thought at a time and feel one sensation. Funny, happy thoughts hold more energy and create an instantaneous shift. If you find that the negative feeling has already occurred and is starting to take root, allow it to just be – feel it for what it is, nothing more than a feeling and let it happen.

Feelings are just feelings and they pass. Try to observe the feeling as a spectator watching a cloud pass, then actively shift your mindset or attention onto something positive.

Since most of your negative thinking patterns are ingrained in the unconscious, this is also a good place to tap in and replace the old (negative) with the new (positive) thoughts.

The best way to achieve this is through hypnosis.

Under the guidance of a good hypnotherapist or hypnosis CD’s you can achieve instantaneous change. Post hypnotic suggestions are placed in the unconscious and when the negative judgmental thoughts arise, the cues serve as an alert to change thinking.

Just as you become habituated to think and respond a certain way, post hypnotic suggestions set the unconscious mind to become reconditioned for the ability to be habituated to be a positive thought processor.

When you combine thought monitoring along with hypnosis, the ability to create mindful, intentional positive thinking becomes amazing!

Finally, here at Free At Last Hypnosis we practice what we preach. Along with hypnosis and NLP techniques we also leverage concepts of mindfulness as a resource during our stop smoking and stress and anxiety hypnosis management program which you can learn more about here >>>.

Other articles in this Mindfulness series include:

Introduction to Mindfulness – Part I

Working on Getting Into a State of Mindfulness– Part II

What Would Being Mindful Mean? – Part III

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES TO HELP WITH PERMANENT MINDFUL CHANGE:

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products.

 

Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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What Would Being Mindful Mean? – Part III

By Peter Sacco
Double Self Image
Double Self Image

Work on bringing the two “you’s” together

For many who have never experienced, nor have ever been in this state of continual mindfulness, it could come on as an extreme revelation to them.

When I refer to the idea of revelation I am referring to this sense of liberation, or self-efficacy – freedom to not be held captive to negative, nagging and self-deprecating thoughts. It means that you, and I mean the term “you“, the part that seems to be separate from the unconscious gets to gain control over your thoughts.

I know this may seem complicated to grasp so stay with me as I try to explain…

Do you ever feel like there are two different people living inside of you?

Person number “one” is the one who has amazing dreams, fleeting thoughts of “best of intentions” to make changes in your life, and wishes that you want to come to fruition.

Then there is person number “two“, the other you, or the downer who kind of rains on your parade by reminding you of the “old ways” and how things always wind up going back the “ole way of doing things” – everything that undermines your number “one” self who wants to live their dreams.

You see, the first you is the real you… the free you.

The second you is your unconscious self that holds patterns and habits of negative and self-defeating thinking. Furthermore, the second you is the one that thinks critically, judges and finds the negative in possibilities.

If you will, the second you is the one who bursts your bubble whenever you set intentions on change. The second you (unconscious) is the one that prevents the first you, the natural you for making the desired changes you want.

The first you (conscious mind) is and was always meant to be the “mindful” you! It is in changing the second you that you can attain a higher level of functioning in the first you. Ironically, the first you is the one who has to state the intention, “Enough! I want change and I want things to be different!” With that said, you start to plant seeds into the unconscious (the second you) and you get to move in the direction of change you desire.

The key to this process happening is you have to be explicit by setting the intention of changing your thought process to tap into the unconscious mind and create new cognitive scripts which do not center on negative judging, self-loathing and worrying.

Instead, new and improved scripts of self-acceptance, self-love, accepting your feelings and allowing them to come to pass is what is needed to bring about this change which will foster growth and habituation to the mindful you.

The key to this process coming about will take time, but not perhaps as long as you think.

The best part of it is that you are in control at all times to go about you want to make the change. You get to program the new, positive thoughts that will be programmed into the unconscious (the second you) which will live in harmony and support the first you, the new and improved mindful you!

Finally, here at Free At Last Hypnosis we practice what we preach. Along with hypnosis and NLP techniques we also leverage concepts of mindfulness as a resource during our stop smoking and stress and anxiety hypnosis management program which you can learn more about here >>>

Other articles in this Mindfulness series include:

Introduction to Mindfulness – Part I

Working on Getting Into a State of Mindfulness– Part II

Creating a Permanent and Mindful Change – Part IV

OTHER RESOURCES TO HELP YOU BEING MINDFUL:

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products.

 

Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Working on Getting Into a State Of Mindfulness – Part II

By Peter Sacco
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Mind Chatter Image

Mind chatter and negative thoughts are destructive to getting to peace

Most people struggle with negative and destructive thinking patterns.

Perhaps the greatest struggle that most of these individuals toil with is actually being able to control their thoughts, at least most of them.

In order to be a mindful thinker, one has to first plant them self in the driver’s seat of their mind and take control.

What are the negative thoughts or self-destructive mindsets that you struggle with on a daily basis? What are the thoughts you have that literally haunt your mind like ghosts in a haunted house?

The more you try to shake free from them, the louder they become.

I will bet that most of your mind chatter focuses on or around any of the following; worries (family, health, finances, relationships, career, home or car maintenance etc.), lack of forgiveness (angry with family, spouse, friends, co-workers, self, etc.) or depression (feeling helpless, hopeless and feel like giving up).

Do any of these negative thought patterns roam the halls of your mind literally, scaring you?

Where the heck did these thoughts come from and how the heck did they grow into the monsters that they are? The answer is they grew from repetition compulsion -doing the same thing repeatedly and automatically without ever really challenging or changing it. In fact, people become habituated or addicted to negative and faulty mind sets that they begin to believe that this is the norm for them.

Now that is scary!

The goal is once you recognize that you are engaging in this self-destructive mindset that you can and will be able to change it by shifting toward positive expectations through creating a thought process based on mindfulness.

The key here is realizing and accepting that your current way of thinking is not working, you are not happy with it, and it may be destructive. Just as a addict has to accept the fact that what they are doing isn’t working, they need to move forward to a mindset of recovery – for the negative thinker, this is a state of mindfulness.

Okay, you are probably saying “Great, that is all fine and dandy, but how do I actually begin this process?

Well, if you are reading this, then you have already began the process because you are engaging in a state of active awareness or attention because what is being stated here is striking a chord in you and you know either on the surface level or deep down that you want to change the way that you think. Once you say “Okay, I do need to change the way I think and want to shift it toward the positive side!“, you have started an active shift in mindfulness – you have given your “mind” the order and/or permission to break away from the way it is used to taking in experiences.

From this point forward, your mind is now being asked to engage in a state of active monitoring of its thoughts rather than a free flowing passive stance – you know, the one where it runs itself laden with negative thoughts!

Finally, here at Free At Last Hypnosis we practice what we preach. Along with hypnosis and NLP techniques we also leverage concepts of mindfulness as a resource during our stop smoking and stress and anxiety hypnosis management program which you can learn more about here >>>

Other articles in this Mindfulness series include:

Introduction to Mindfulness – Part I

What Would Being Mindful Mean? – Part III

Creating a Permanent and Mindful Change – Part IV

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES TO HELP GETTING INTO A STATE OF MINDFULNESS:

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products.

 

Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Introduction to Mindfulness – Part I

By Peter Sacco
Man Thinking Image
Man Thinking Image

What is this thing called “mindfulness?”

This is the first of a four-part series that will explore the topic of Mindfulness. It’s somewhat of a buzz-word these days, with even HR Departments in corporate America getting on the bandwagon, and offering lecture series to employees.

But it’s a subject that needs some explaining and that is what our own Peter Sacco will be doing over a series of posts.

Erika Slater CH – Director Free At Last Hypnosis

Often times you will hear people make reference to the concept “mindfulness“.

They will drop the word on you, then they just kind of leave you hanging, never explaining what the word meant or what they intended by its use.

You need to be more mindful of what you are doing or the decisions you are making!” They might say.

And there is you, “Say what? How can I be more mindful of what I am doing… is there another gear I can shift my mind into?” Ah, herein lies the vexation as to where most people get lost when it comes to “mindfulness“.

According to Psychology Today magazine, “mindfulness” is a state of active and open attention on the present moment. You are in a state of living in the moment – being if you will! When you are able to do this, you become capable of just observing your thoughts as a viewer without judging them as being either good or bad.

Mindfulness is being more in a subjective experience where you enjoy the moment without wearing critical sensors or blinders… the mind is allowed to be in a state of tranquility.

Most people live their lives in a daily state of mental chaos. Minds never cease from racing whereby most of these thoughts are not only random, but also negative ones as well. You see, most people’s minds operate on overdrive or “by proxy” without any monitoring of their thoughts and these thoughts tend to gravitate toward negativity.

The problem with this is that where your thoughts go, energy tends to flow. People can start their days or moments off with the best of intentions, planning to have a “great day“, but if their thoughts are wired from a negative standpoint, they start to shift in this direction and before one knows it, their moods begin to spiral downward and they start experiencing a “bad day“!

They allow their conditioned negative mindset to kick in and they just flow with it. This is where their judgmental, critical mind kicks in and they are no longer experiencing a state of tranquility.

The catch 22 with being in or getting to a state of mindfulness (mental peace and tranquility) is becoming aware of your “mindfulness” first off in order to recognize that you are not in a state of mindfulness. Basically, this is like a “chicken or egg“, which came first situation. One might wonder, well how would I know I need to work on my state of mindfulness, or whether it is “working or not“? Good point!

The way that you know that you are not in the ultimate state of mindfulness is when you are having continual racing thoughts, negative thoughts, feeling stressed out over your thoughts, etc.

The tell tale sign of being in a non-mindfulness state is when you suffer from insomnia because you just can’t seem to shut your mind down at night as it is always racing!

You are about to embark on a series of articles which will explore the dimensions of “mindfulness” and how you can get to that point in your mind right now.

Finally, here at Free At Last Hypnosis we practice what we preach. Along with hypnosis and NLP techniques we also leverage concepts of mindfulness as a resource during our stop smoking and  stress and anxiety hypnosis management program which you can learn more about here >>>

Other articles in this Mindfulness series include:

Working on Getting Into a State of Mindfulness– Part II

What Would Being Mindful Mean? – Part III

Creating a Permanent and Mindful Change – Part IV

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES FOR INTRODUCTION TO MINDFULNESS:

Why is it So Darn Hard to Cope with Stress? Ways to Reduce It >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products.

 

Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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How To Be Yourself Socially

By Peter Sacco
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socializing image

We are naturally social animals but being ourselves doesn’t always come easily

How does one go about being themselves socially? Is there some kind of norm for people to follow which states how you should behave in all situations?

Do you believe you have to act or react a certain way in order to be accepted by others?

Whatever happened to just “being yourself“?

Its funny how many people believe they need to act, dress or become a certain way to fit in socially. There is that saying that, “The clothes make the man!” I might buy into that a bit, however I would rather go with, “It’s who decides which clothes he is going to buy which will make him!

Being who and what you are is all about thinking.

If you think it then you can become it. And this thinking is all about your attitude for choosing who and what you want to be. Really, it’s that simple yet so many people struggle to act like, or become something they are not just to impress others.

Well, now is the time to take control of the reigns of your life and become the person that you most want to be!

Are you ready?

You will only start to become what you want to be when you see yourself as that. This means visualizing the you that you want to be. Too many people act and become something they are not as they conform to the whims of others. Most of the time they act according to what others expect of them because they are afraid of hurting other peoples’ feelings, or letting them down.

Interestingly, when you do this you are actually letting yourself down and hurting your own feelings.

Furthermore, you are not being your true authentic self! It all begins with how you see yourself as who and what you are. When you do this you will become that as you are already that in your mind.

If you have always wanted to be more assertive, more outgoing, more successful in social situations, you need to first start visualizing the outcomes you want to happen. Spend 30 minutes each day, even two 15 minute time periods where you meditate and visualize on what you want.

Your thoughts trigger feelings and energy which create awesome experiences and images in advance.

When you have these images in advance along with the feelings, you are more likely to act that and become that in those similar situations. You might call it confidence for experiences you will have in advance. You send your confidence ahead of you!

How do you accomplish this visualization experience through meditation if you have a hard time staying focused for any period of time?

It is best to start out meditating for a few minutes at a time and seeing/feeling yourself as how you want to be in those situations. Self-hypnosis is a great way to help you relax and shift your mindset to the place you want it to go – confidence meditation.

Interestingly, if you try this for three weeks you will see tremendous results. They key is opening yourself up to this experience and trying it! If you want to discuss working directly with us on your particular issue to see if we can help and advise you on a next step, then check out our Special Hypnosis Services Programs.

Alternatively, if you prefer a self-hypnosis product then check out this MP3 hypnosis session to get your social life back on track here >>>

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO BEING YOURSELF SOCIALLY:

How to Overcome Stubbornness >>>

How to Participate in Conversations Easily >>>

Library of Self-Hypnosis Downloads Products.

 
Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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Baby Boomer Trends – Becoming a Parent Again

By Peter Sacco
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Baby Boomers and Dog Image

Baby Boomers are getting pets and small ones

I was reading an article not too long ago and it made me laugh.

It was about baby boomers and their children. It asserted that today’s baby boomer children are hairier and more cuddly. Some even yelp a lot louder! Of course I knew what they were referring to – cats and dogs.

Today more baby boomers are becoming parents many times over by getting pets. It seems adults love to play the parent role forever or at least adopt a loyal friend.

I was looking into the types of pets baby boomers like to have in their lives.

It’s funny how younger folks enjoy larger breeds of dogs whereas baby boomers enjoy the companionship of smaller lap dogs and cats. When asked why, many said they are easier to pick up and move around, especially if they need to take them somewhere or on a vacation. Also, some added that the smaller animals do less damage to furniture – they are not bulls in China shops!

These pets are not just pets. They are members of the family!

Often times, you can find them watching television with their owners, sleeping in the same bed with them and dare I say eating with them at the table? Also, some owners even dress their little guys and gals up just like them. These pets become extensions of their owners, perhaps “mini-mees” or the kids they always wanted to have, or the kids they wanted to be more like them!

Pets are a great thing for anyone, especially baby boomers who feel neglected by grown up kids who have moved away. Some people, more so women experience what is called empty nest syndrome, when the last of their children leaves home. Many feel empty as they feel their role as mother/care-giver is gone. Furthermore, the house may seem so “empty” and quiet which means couples have to spend more time communicating or ignoring one another.

Did you know that pets such as cats and dogs serves as great bridges for narrowing the gap in communication?

Just having that pet gives the couple a sense of a renewed shared interest in the house. For men who were never really very maternal in their own child-rearing skills, pets help them to become more maternal.

Many baby boomers are also single and live alone. Nothing can be more lonely than coming home to a quiet house. Having a pet in your house makes your house feel like a home! Did you also know that pets are great at helping people improve upon their own health? If you have a dog, you get to walk it or play with it outside. If you have a cat you can play with it as well.

Some research shows that just being around animals has the remarkable ability to lower one’s blood pressure and help them feel more relaxed.

It’s funny how people believe they are providing a great service whenever they adopt a furry creature. They indeed are and there are many loving animals out there who long for a new mommy or daddy. With that said, the joys, pleasures and health benefits the furry love of your life will bring you is priceless! Baby Boomers are a large part of our clientele as they enter the second act of their life and want to experience significant changes in their life. If you want to discuss working directly with us on your particular issue to see if we can help and advise you on a next step, then check out our Hypnosis Services or you can contact us here.

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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES RELATED TO BABY BOOMERS:

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Simple Ways for Aging Baby Boomers to Stay Young >>>

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Peter Andrew Sacco Ph.D.
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