Is Fast-Food Communicating Missing the Intent of Your Messages?

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We communicate fast now but our intent can be missed

They say that one of the fastest diminishing skill in this new decade which started in the last decade is the ability to communicate effectively.

As technology continues to flourish at exponential rates, the ability to make sense of what others are saying, and conveying your own points seems to be getting lost in translation – the period between typing it and sending it as either a text or an email. Whatever happened to simply picking up a phone and calling someone, or better yet actually going to see them? The answer is fast food communication which is sending out a message with minimal effort and getting one back as quickly as possible with minimal effort!

Over the last 15 years I have written several books on communicating in relationships and have taught countless courses and seminars in the same subject area.

I have found that when the Internet began taking off and people started sending e-mails, this changed the face of communication. When text messaging came into play not too long after, a whole new set of rules and lingo was created to send instant messages at the touch of a button.

For those who are “old school“, actually like to see the person they are chatting with or talk to them on the phone, they have either become obsolete in their “old school communication” skills if they have no one to communicate with at that level, or they have had to learn to adapt rather quickly!

You see people generally communicate one of two ways: through denotation of words or connotation of words.

Denotation refers to the actual meaning of the word or the sentence. Connotation on the other hand refers to the underlying, subjective meaning or feelings associated with the message. When you communicate face to face, and even on the phone one’s voice reflects the intention of the meaning, whether denotatively or connotatively.

Often times e-mails and text messages have left many people in the dark when it comes to intention of the meaning if they are not techno-savvy! If you don’t get the lingo then you are left trying to figure out what the sender of the message has intended. Okay, technological messages are one thing, but what about the real world?

The real world is techno-influenced in terms of communication. The same rules are finding their way into everyday communication.

Anyone not of this generation (the Internet/text messaging) is usually finding themselves asking younger folks, “What does that mean?” or “Can you please clarify that?” in every day conversations.

You see the rules and meanings of the techno-world are dripping into the real world because they provide communicators with fast, short and efficient questions and answers. As a general rule, today people would rather fire off short messages and get their point across rather than explaining things in greater detail.

This in turn is diminishing the connectivity and intimacy of the spoken word. In the end most individuals are being forced or at least asked to adapt to denotative communication and this is taking the feeling out of words.

I always tell my readers and students that, “Words don’t mean, rather people do!” Does anyone really look for the intentions behind the spoken word today or is it all accepted at face value… word value?

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Dr Peter
Staff Writer
Free At Last Hypnosis

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